Unclear on the Concept

Contending with the Meaning of Disagreement

David A. Reinstein, LCSW

When someone disagrees with you
Their thinking seems to suffer
From a conspicuous flaw,
Though you realize that they are free
To disagree,
And concurrence is not a law.
Perhaps they just don't understand
But think, of course, they do
When they confuse the things that they believed
With things they think they knew.
They appear alert and rested
But you wonder if they have slept,
How could a person with a working mind
Be so unclear on the concept?

Agreeing to disagree
Is an agreement to cease disagreeing
While each person persists
In being quite certain
That reality is consistent
With their own view of seeing.
There is no real resolution
As no mind is changed,
Stopping the argument
Is the only solution
That saves or delays
The relationship
From being rearranged.
So under the carpet
The disagreements are swept
While each person wonders,
"How can he remain
So very unclear
On the concept?"

Perception is subjective,
To think otherwise is a distortion;
To believe that one is always 'right'
Displays a lesser portion
Of a mind that might be able
To entertain or even accept
That when another disagrees
They are not,
Necessarily,
Unclear on the concept.

Published by David A. Reinstein, LCSW - Featured Contributor in Technology

Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist, born in Boston and a relatively unscathed survivor of the 60 s. Fan of technology, guitars, creating music and poetry. Mental wellness coach, staff trainer and parent...  View profile

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  • Catherine Dagger9/4/2011

    :)

  • Catherine Dagger9/4/2011

    :)

  • Dan Reveal9/1/2011

    Very well done..!!

  • Don Rothra8/29/2011

    My wife and I agreed in our wedding vows to disagree. Our concept of that is to listen to each other's concept and then drop the subject. Our ideas on the subject come together later in a compromising light. A well known way of saying "let's sleep on it."

  • Joan Haines8/28/2011

    I can imagine this poem being read by some talented voice artist. The interwoven words and ideas with no break are effective at conveying the meaning.

  • E. L. D.8/25/2011

    Very, very good. So right. It helps to maintain normalcy if one does what is normally done even when the situation has for the moment, changed.

  • Sharon Pfohl8/25/2011

    I have loved ones that are so different that we just have to agree to disagree on some issues.

  • Mike Powers8/23/2011

    Very wise words, my friend. Thanks!

  • Laura Everly8/23/2011

    Good job on this....Laura Everly

  • Lodie Quezada8/23/2011

    Excellent write.

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