Understanding Broken Relationships, Commitments and Homewreckers

Whenever somebody mentions they had a previous marriage or broken relationship people tend to get off the subject quick, since in most cases it's considered a private matter. After all marriages and relationships can be broken for many different reasons. After all nobody ever wants to see relationships come to an end, yet everyone knows sometimes things just happen. Of course some endings are better than others such as a mutual parting of the ways, which in most cases would be the ideal way to break up with someone. Unfortunately though that isn't how most relationships end, the vast majority of marriages and commitments end in what best would be described a whirlwind of emotions.

Most broken relationships are for the most part filled with lies, deceit and often infidelity issues. As well as broken relationships can and often are very different for each sex.

The male for instance, usually sees things in a whole different light, than the female in the relationship. A male will often talk of his past relationship as something he just could not take anymore. In many instances the male will make allegations that the female was always nagging, harping or injecting some other torment that he could no longer abide. Men also often play it off as though they just needed to move on, acting as if they were somehow stifled or held back by for lack of a better analogy by the old ball and chain.

Even in some instances when children are involved, men will say that they just couldn't hack it anymore and it's somehow just better this way.

Now I will grant you that many people if given the choice of a bad relationship with fighting and arguing, would agree that splitting up is better than putting anyone especially children through that environment. However when any breakup involves a it's just better this way comment, I would bet there is a lot more to the story than meets the eye.

Women on the other hand in a breakup will often lay it's demise on some fault that the male had such as he either lied, never stayed home, wouldn't get a job, or perhaps even cheated. Women also have a tendency to have a very hard time moving on after a broken relationship. After all in most instances people would agree that men that cheat, lie and won't support their families, most definitely give reason enough for anyone to call it quits.

However it is important to remember that relationships and marriages are not above reproach and in many cases can best be described as extremely complex and delicate. Relationships are virtual tightropes, where with every miss step could easily end in disaster. It has always been my understanding that relationships do fall by the wayside for many different reasons, but probably the toughest to swallow for any committed relationship would be having someone else become involved.

Someone else that may have swayed the delicate balance more towards one side than the other. Someone that came in the picture and perhaps made some kind of comment such as alpha personalities can't be with other alphas. Someone that hinted at the relationship being too far gone to be saved, or perhaps urged the teetering individual to just let go of the relationship and allow it to collapse. Someone that urges the indecisive person to just give up and move on with their life.

A person that stepped into a private relationship and without clearly knowing both sides of the story made an ill fated judgment call, without having any real grasp on the whole situation. A person that may not know the history within the relationship and for all extensive purposes at just what point the relationship can or cannot be saved.
It should also be noted that while most anyone wouldn't want to be the reason behind the breakup of two individuals, there are still those that would and do step into relationships without remorse.

These individuals are commonly referred to as "homewreckers" and no matter how you slice it male or female, a third party instigator is definitely in the wrong.

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en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_triangle
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