Understanding Long Distance Relationships

Serene Fry
A long distance relationship, like any other, is always a work in progress. For some, it may be an ideal relationship. They find it easier to do their role as a partner without the pressure of having to respond and cater to the other's needs every minute of every day. However, there is even a larger population who feels more secure and comfortable with their partner around.

Each couple has different views and beliefs when it comes to relationships. There are those who are firm believers of the "quality time = quantity of time" rule. For them, the amount of time one spends with his/her partner assesses the extent of feelings he/she for the person, although, some other couples may find this irrational. Whatever the case may be, all relationships should be built on mutual trust and commitment. Whether the couple is living together under the same roof or living a thousand miles apart.

But one has to admit, a long distance relationship, unlike other affairs, takes a lot more effort from both partners for it to actually work and last. The physical distance alone poses a lot of temptation from the outside environment for both individuals. No matter how wonderful, amazing and perfect the partner is, there are just some needs that call to be satisfied, and cannot be fulfilled with the distance. But no matter how complicated it may seem, just the effort from both individuals to keep the spark alive would totally make a difference.

Among all the roots of every couple's dilemma and problem, distance is helpful but one of the most destructive of all. It can build and deepen trust, but can also destroy it. It can form a bond between to hearts, or it can put out the spark. Perhaps no relationship advice is more appropriate than to be careful. A long distance relationship can be like any other relationship. It can end with a happy ending and long-term commitment or it can simply end, without warning. Whatever the case, one should keep in mind that the most crucial key to keeping it alive is communication. A relationship is a partnership. There should be the talking and the listening. Although you may not be there for each other all the time, just the mutual effort to keep the communication lines open will be a great deal. Yet an existing long distance relationship is not a real relationship yet. Both individuals must ensure a quality time physically together and get a feel of actual connection whenever possible and this way, each moment together is worthwhile.

Although being physically together can boosts the sparks between two individuals, love and feelings for each other is still a vital factor. Like any other relationship, love should be sustained and kept in faith. Both should be committed to share the love that each one is willing to give. In this way, emotional needs of both partners are completely satisfied even with the challenge of physical separation.

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