Unfaithful

Recently, I have found myself in a circumstance where I witnessed an unfortunate secret. I learned of a man being unfaithful to his wife. I held my peace for some time, telling only my mother with whom I agreed that for myself to reveal the truth would only serve to cause pain to the family members who did not deserve such sorrow. The man's daughters are all very dear to me, and I hope that they have no doubts about the fact that I would never willingly hurt any of them. There were suspicions though, and when the eldest daughter asked me if I had seen anything, I couldn't bring myself to lie to her. Of course, then the truth was out. The daughter then revealed to her mother what I had confirmed, and the entire situation blew up.

Often when cheaters are caught, they will manipulate their story to shift the blame onto anyone but themselves. Usually it falls to the spouse, as if marital problems warrant such shameful behavior. Somehow, I found myself sharing in the blame in some sets of eyes, because I had been the one to reveal the truth. Sometimes, the blame is not placed with a person. Many cheaters turn to excuses such as alcoholism and other so-called diseases that boil down to nothing more than an utter lack of self control. Many cheaters say that their reason for betraying the trust of their significant other is that they are unsatisfied in their love life.

As far as I am concerned, all of these excuses mean nothing. To all the cheaters in the world, I have only this to say, if you feel the urge to betray your lover, you have only two suitable options whether you are married or not. You need to either work things out or end your relationship and move on. Any other choices are despicable, and I consider this a black mark on your character. In agreeing to a relationship, you make a promise to your lover that he or she is your only, whether this agreement is spoken or not. Unless your lover has agreed upon another set of expectations with you, you are not in the right under any circumstances to have a relationship that is anything but platonic with anyone. Do not have any delusions about the matter. Only you are at fault if you cheat.