Unfit Parents: How Can Society Allow Them to Continue to Parent

You seriously have to wonder what some people are thinking when it comes to raising their children. There are just some things that should be red flags and have peoples children taken away from them and given to more responsible family members or to a more responsible families in general. Some of you may know people who are not fit to be parents, you may know people that are parents who by their own admission are not "fans" of children or just do not like kids, for that matter you may know people that have children that are just, well let's face it, not fit to have pets let along children.

One of the things that absolutely drives me insane, and bothers me to no end are those types of people. When it comes to having children, sometimes the event is not planned, and some times it is. Of course when things are planned it makes for an easier transition into the new world of parenthood. However, for goodness sakes, the people in this world that just have kids just to be having them, have kids to hold onto another person regardless of the ability to raise the child or the want of the child, people that are still children themselves in some form or fashion, and then the people amongst us that are just too lazy to take extra birth control methods into consideration are complete and utter idiots.

If you do not know of someone that is one of the above, or has done one of the above, then you need not look any further then newspapers, television, or magazines to see one of these types of people. We are bombarded everyday with images, and stories of other "human" beings doing stupid, horrendous things in the presences of their children to know what I am talking about. Some of the images we see of people and their stupidly ridiculous behavior have to make you wonder why the hell these people have children or are still aloud to have their around them.

Example in point, look at Britney Spears. Why the hell is this "woman" still in contact with her children. Or better yet why has nothing been done to get those little boys away from her. From everything that we know, and have seen she is a tasteless, worthless, annoying excuse for a mother. She still has her children after numerous "oops" and "uh oh" events. Let's think back, driving with a child on her lap and not in a car seat, dropping children and almost dropping children, giving her children to the nearest person when she is too "busy", partying to no end, and not to mention her obviously unsuccessful trip rehab.

I realize everyone has their ups and downs, and lord knows we all have bad days, and yes, before anyone says it I realize we "normal" people do not have cameras and people following us around on a daily basis waiting for us to make a mistake. But, holy "Oops I Did It Again" where is the line drawn? Do we wait for a parent (I use the word parent lightly) to seriously injure a child, kill a child, or just plain forget their children somewhere before something is done to protect the future leaders and adults of our world from the obviously incapable parents out there?

Also, before it is pointed out to me that there are people who can go to a rehab facility and come out to be even better people, even more productive humans and that they go on to be #1 Moms and Dads, I already know this as well. I am just curious how many chances people who think they are better then the average hard working parents out there, are going to get.

I look at my children everyday and am absolutely amazed by them. I am mesmerized at how my husband and I made two beautiful, smart, amazing little men. I look at them on a daily basis and wonder how I got so lucky to have them in my life. Yes, I have days when I want to scream, and run to the nearest closet and hide. I have the days when I wonder how in the world for the rest of my life am I going to be someone's Mother. But, I took into parenthood for the long haul, I put my children first in everything I do, I think about them when my husband and I are making major decisions, I think about the effect on them with every move I make. My children are always with me, and they always know that they are loved. They know they can come to me for anything, and everything, and I will be there to hold them, to love them, and to help them no matter what has happened. I do not drop my children off at their grandparents house, or random peoples houses, I do not leave to go on "vacation" without my children, and by no means do my children get passed off from place to place.

If more people entered into parenthood with the knowledge that it will change their lives, but it will change their lives for the better if they are prepared in everyway possible. Just because you are married, or think you love someone that is not a reason to have children with that person. If you are not ready for the quite real possibility that your actions may result in another life being created then do not lay your butt down, and put yourself in the situation to create another human being. For that matter if you do lay down then protect yourself several times over. Use birth control, use a condom, use spermicidal agents, and by all means use all of the above and then some if you are not ready for parenthood.

On the other side of this, there are people in the world who can not have children and would love to take a child from a less deserving person. There are people out there that need help to have children of their own. But, come on people stop having kids when you do not want them, can not handle them, or let's face it just are not a deserving human to have children. If you are not responsible enough to raise a worthwhile, young man or woman to make them an operating person in the worlds society then do us all a favor and do not procreate!