Unruly Children: How to Deal with Them
Unruly children are usually those who commit juvenile crimes. The reported juvenile crime rate in 1994 was at an all time high. Since this time, the juvenile crime rate has dropped forty percent. There are about seventy millions minors in the United State which is about one-fourth of the population. Of these seventy million about 2.5 million of them are arrested. Within this group of arrested minors, 1700 of them were arrested for murder. Girls account for 130 of these murders, which is an increase on the violent crime rate for women. There has been a lot of steps in reducing juvenile crime in recent years but more steps need to be taken. The increase has been for women committing juvenile crimes. The crime rate for juveniles is getting lower but proper steps still need to be taken to reduce it further
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This problem affects everybody but it harms the unruly children the most. They often times grow up in a house where boundaries are either not set at all or are enforce so stringently that the child needs to break out. The children will not stop their destructive behavior by themselves. In the case of the child who is trying to break out from strict parents, this is a little bit easier to solve. The children will have caring parents who will adapt in order to bring their kids back in. In the case of the children who have parents who don't set rules there is not much that can be done by the child. The parent needs to step up here and set regulations. The sad thing about these unruly children is that they are ignorant to what this kind of behavior does to their futures. They only see the present and not ten years down the road when they need to go to college or get a job.
There are a plethora of things being down to help deal with unruly children. It has to be noted that the biggest thing that can be done to prevent unruly children is a positive environment with a good socioeconomic background in a good community. The solutions provided to fix unruly children are for the parents and how they need to deal with them when the children get out of hand. One articles suggestions that parents should cut the idle threats. If they say they are going to punish then they need to punish. The parents are supposed to be there to guide and idle threats give the kids mixed signals. It will cause them to constantly push the boundaries because nothing is really going to happen to them. Dr. Phil goes a little more extreme. If your child is a little terror then he suggest psychiatric help. In lesser cases the good doctor suggest that parents acknowledge their roles, maintain a unified front, avoid a power struggle, and punishing them when applicable. Some extreme religious groups advocate the beating of children in disciplinary actions. They site different verses in the Bible that suggest that if a child is out of line then he/she needs to be whipped. While many of suggested in the past that this doesn't work it has been a way to deal with unruly children since civilization began.
It is the belief of this group that a full solution to this problem can not happen because there will always be bad people. What our group suggests is that parents take responsibility and discipline their children when needed. This means setting up clear punishments and boundaries to children. If these boundaries are crossed, then a worthy punishment is justified. This does not mean physical contact. This kind of contact can lead to not only physical but mental damage as well. Parents need to "ground" their children or take a privilege away. If a kid is acting unruly then they probably can responsibly handle privileges. The difficulty in a solution to this problem is that the parents have to want to raise respectful children. Unless the government limits what people have children than irresponsible, immature people will still be parenting unruly children. Educating parents about the dangers of not disciplining their children is the best solution beyond providing a child with a good environment.
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19 Comments
Post a CommentI too have an unruly child. My 7 year old will not listen to authority for anything. He's gotten in trouble at school and on the bus (combined) a total of 4 or 5 times in just a week, week and a half. We've tried every punishment possible to no avail. I feel there is nothing I can do. We've done behavior charts, with prizes for good behavior. We've done the heart to heart talks. Nothing helps. I'm going NUTS!
I have a 6yr old boy who is constenly lieing and getting in trouble in school. I have say him down several times and explained to him that he can't be disrupting the class and not doing his work. He lies to me about little things most the time and it seems like when i punish him he dosn't seem to learn from it. I do spank him when he does get out of line with a paddle but i feel that dosn't help either. Can someone please give me some pointers im so lost on what to do anymore.
Here's how I solved the "Child doesn't listen, breaks rules, and bullies others." I took him down town to in front of a group of really badass thugs and told him to get out of the car. Then I showed him a homeless man and siad he;d end up like him, "Think about it. You need good school grades to get into college to get a degree to get a lot of money so you can have a nice life. If you slip up, you'll end up like these people, having to beg for even a quarter and you'll be starving to death," Then I took him home and told him to think about it.
I still will like to know, who is a mature parent. Yes who have been in that path before they have a baby. Nobody is mature to have a baby, that's all. Nobody, have a previous experience until they have their own. Taking care of your sister and brothers or being a nanny is not the same as molding somebody personalities.
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Rachel, I'm pretty sure that it is the parents who are responsible for their child's behavior. Kids don't act like that by themselves, what are parents for? Don't try to justify they aren't responsible. What your sister need is help and tough love. Add a Comment Posted on 12/14/2008 at 7:12:04 PM
ARE YOU KIDDING ME???
I have a six year old little boy, who, up until this point was always a pretty good kid. Lately he has been pushing limits and I'm not sure why. His father, who does not live with us has some definite emotional problems... but he rarely sees his father. Granted, that is enough in itself to cause some kind of problem somewhere down the line, but there are plenty of children growing up in single-parent homes who grow up fine. My point with that is that he seems to act a lot like his father, even though his father isn't around. He's very moody and emotional and I have no idea how to control it. I'm a very consistent punisher. I send him to his room, take his tv, take away planned events, etc. I also try to have heart-to-hearts with him and meet him on an emotional level and also motivate him to be good. He usually reacts positively to the heart-to-hearts, and says he understands and will try a little harder to follow rules, but that doesn't last very long. I don't get it. I fee
i have twin boys 9yrs old and am really at the end of my tether with them one is bullying the other and its escalated to the point that im close to a nervous breakdown helpppppppppppp
cant handel my unruley 11yr old any more
I have 16 year old step-daughter that lives with her Mom she keeps skipping school and not coming home. We don't know what to do anymore.
Hi Tricia,
I feel your pain. You need to set some boundaries in your home. You need to sit both children down, so that the 11 yr old won't feel isolated. Tell them that you won't tolerate any longer them being disrespectful to you or eachother. Let them know there will be penalties if the rules are broken-but you have to be firm and consistent. When that 11 yr old calls the 6 year old names, send her to her room and leave her in there. Don't open it up for discussion just do it for a day. Every time she does it send her there and start taking things that she likes. If she has a tv, take the cable cord. If she likes talking on the phone, cut out her phone priveleges. She will eventually get it-she young enough right now to conform, but if you allow her to keep this up without a firm hand and discipline, when she's 15 she'll be hitting both you and her sister.