Rationalizing is a basic component of our psyche's self defense. It helps you take a demoralizing situation and make it as if it never occurred. A well chosen rationalization will have you walking through a crowd of nay sayers with your held high like the world loves you.
Have you ever seen Hollywood superstars or professional athletes react to insults? There seems to be 2 different kinds of reaction. One gets highly insulted and spouts back, the other gives an eye wink and a smile and keeps moving.
Everyone falls in love with the winker, but the one who spouts back just invites more criticism. Why? Because the winker rationalized that the person who made the comment has no idea what they're talking about and figured they needed a paycheck to feed their family.
So how do you turn this to your favor in dating? Very easy. Here are a couple of tricks of the trade when recovering from rejection in the dating game.
Tip 1 - They always have someone else
If you want to stop any heartache or depression in its tracks when someone rejects you, always remember this: Even if they didn't say it, they have someone else. It doesn't matter if you see a wedding ring on their finger or if they're out alone.
They may not want to let the world know at that moment they're involved, but they are. Why else would they not want you? Want to eliminate the feeling of rejection, blame it on first-come/first-served.
Tip 2 - Not the only game in town
A good way to reject rejection is to rationalize that person is not the only fish in the sea. There are thousands of men or women (sometimes both) out there who would die for the chance to go out with you, you just have to realize it.
Look in the mirror and realize you are the greatest catch for thousands of individuals and they are all out there searching just for you.
Tip 3 - They've been hurt before
This is actually somewhat of a true statement. People who have been hurt tend to keep their guard up and reject any advancement from someone who they find attractive. This works well in your favor.
Convince yourself that the person didn't reject you; they rejected the pain that they just experienced. You are not the reason for their bad luck, but because you're so attractive, they don't want to go through it again.
These are just a few of the rationalizations you can use to understand the reason for you being rejected. Use them and watch your confidence go sky high.
Published by Greg Smith
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