Utilizing Toddlers' Independence Can Aid in Cleaning and More

Toddlers want to help. They are independent creatures, eager to explore new skills and new things. Which leads to the inevitable "I do it myself" assertion that all parents of these little people learn to know well. While it takes at least twice as long for a toddler to do it himself or herself, in the long run, this learning curve will benefit the entire family. Here are a few areas to encourage that will limit the immediate frustration factor for both parent and child.

Cleaning. With little kids, you probably have big messes. Fortunately, you also have willing helpers and the sooner they get in the habit of cleaning, the happier your entire family will be. Depending on the child's age, he or she can pick up toys, use a hand broom and dust pan, and rinse or dry dishes. While you may have to go behind him, including your child in the cleaning process will build his cleaning confidence and skills, especially if you turn it into a game.

Shopping. It is inevitable that you will take your kids with you shopping, and if you can turn it into an opportunity for them to help, it will be an easier experience for everyone. Depending on how old your toddler is, he or she can pick out items, put them into the basket, or help choose items (i.e. what color tissue box). While a one-year-old shouldn't be out of the cart, a three-year-old is capable of placing cans onto the conveyer belt and will be excited to do so.

Bathing. Never leave your child alone in the bathroom, but do let him or her do a lot of the scrubbing. Kids can wash their own hair, use a soapy wash cloth on their arms and legs (or the backs of siblings), and rinse themselves off. They may need a little assistance getting off all of the grime, but you can turn it into a "just checking" game to keep the spirit of independence going. It makes for great splashing fun and memories, and is another way to get your bathroom clean, too!

Laundry. Laundry is a great venue to introduce toddlers to helping with chores. Kids can carry their dirty laundry to the washing machine, bring clean clothes to their rooms, and even help fold items. With front loading washers and dryers, toddlers are the perfect height to put clothes in and take clothes out, and they'll enjoy playing in the warm clothes.

Pick your battles and have reasonable expectations for what your toddler can do. Then sit back and watch the learning in action.