Verbal Abuse

Most people will over look verbal abuse some people even think it will make a person stronger. But what most people do not realize is that it can also cause long term damage, a child to become withdrawn and unsure of themselves. There is a difference between getting onto your child and verbally abusing them. For instance telling you child to do something a certain way is different from telling your child they can not do it right.

Most people when they think of abuse think of someone beating their children. Bruises go away but words never do you will be surprised at what a child will remember. When someone tells their child that they wish they were never born, they hate them, and that they will never amount to anything it sticks with the child for the rest of their lives. When they are called names at school it can stick with them. You can not take words back even if you did not mean it the child does not know this. They get older they think to themselves what if I am not smart enough, what if I can not do it, what if I fail? They second guess every thing they do. Because they were told by someone they thought cared about them they could not do anything right and were a failure. Some people even go so far as to tell them that they would be better off killing themselves. What do think they will do? This person is suppose to love them and know whats best for them.

The longer the abuse goes on the worse the child gets. They become withdrawn and wonder what they did that was so wrong that even their own parents can not stand them. They start to believe the things they were told. Mainly because they have never heard a kind word or even an I love you. Most people take those three simple words for granted when a verbally abused child wishes to just hear it once from someone who cares.

Verbal abuse is also common at most schools they will pick on a child call them names and unless someone stops it this will continue to get worse. Its not a secret that kids get picked on at school. But some of what is said can stick with a child, Your ugly, your stupid, your fat no matter how skinny the child is. I know that many people probably do not think of these things as verbal abuse but it does have an affect on a child. It is not always a parent who is doing the abuse. Other kids, yes even some teachers. But my point is verbal abuse can be just as bad as physical abuse. It can have some of the same affects as physical abuse. It can lead a child to feel worthless and unloved,