Virginity Pledge

Virginity Pledge: Before I have sex...
1. I will have voted in one political election this includes selecting a school board member, mayoral candidate, city council member or any public proposal. I will understand my political preference and views and why I am a particular party that is not related to my upbringing, but based on my own personal beliefs.
2. I will have my driver's license.
3. I will have opened my own checking account, not related to my parent's.
4. I will have opened my own savings account and have saved _____ amount of money.
5. I will have decided a direction for my life that I feel comfortable with such as going to college, selecting a major, joining the military, getting a job etc.
6. I will have dated or known the person for at least____ months.
7. I will be emotionally, psychologically and spiritually prepared to deal with the consequences of failed birth control that result in an unplanned pregnancy.
8. I will have discussed with my partner how we, together would agree to handle an unplanned pregnancy.
9. I will have discussed and received a copy of my partner's medical letter stating that he does not have a sexually transmitted infection. However, I am also aware that this medical information is not always factual or current, but I am willing to risk my health to make love to this person because I believe that this person has shown me respect in the past and I have no reason not to trust their integrity.
10. I will have given my partner a medical letter from my doctor stating that I am healthy and that I do not have a sexually transmitted infection.
11. I will be emotionally, psychologically and spiritually prepared to deal with the possibility that I may become infected with a sexually transmitted infection even while using protection. I understand that there are no cures for some sexually transmitted infections such as AIDS and herpes.
12. I will not be under the influence of alcohol or any chemical substances when engaging in sex. I will be completely aware of my decision and the consequences of my behavior.
13. I will have earned my first paycheck. I know that having a job is a rewarding adult responsibility that teaches me how to be independent and self sufficient.
14. I will know the boundaries and perimeters of the relationship and know where I stand in my partner's life. I will know whether or not I am in a committed relationship, dating, one night stand, or hook up. I understand that having sex with a person will not force them to love, like or respect me as a person. I understand that having sex can complicate my emotions and my relationship with my partner. I am ready for these emotional changes.
15. I will be emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually grounded in my own truth. I will not have sex to prove my love or win a dare or bet. I will only have sex when I am ready to share my body with another human being as a participant and receiver of pleasure and intimacy.

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Your Name Date
By, Dr. Cassandra George Sturges MA, MA