Waiting for a Second Date: If the Guy Hasn't Called You Yet, He's Not Going To
Here's the scenario: you've gone out a few times and you really feel like there might be something there. He was funny and really cute and you rushed right home to tell your girlfriends about him, automatically assuming he is the one. In your mind there were fireworks so you imagine he is feeling the same way. A day or two goes by and there's no call. The wheel of excuses starts to turn in your head. Alien abductions and temporary amnesia really aren't all that uncommon. Right? Wrong.
Ladies, the reason he isn't calling is because you are simply not on his mind. In some ways men are really no different then women. If he had gone home with the same giddy feelings as you, he would be calling. Just like us, men have a difficult time containing the attraction they feel for a woman that interests them. Just like us, men want to be around things that they find fun and exciting. If he doesn't call, he didn't find you fun and exciting. I'm so sorry, but I did say it might be painful. If you really think about it, you'll know it is the truth. If you were really into a guy nothing would stop you from finding a quick second in your busy day to call him. So why should it be any different for him? Is he really that much busier than you? No, but you are that much more willing to make an excuse for him than he would be for you. And let's face it ladies, he would not be sitting around by the phone just waiting for you to call. He would be out there finding someone else that is fun and exciting.
Do yourself a favor and forget him. If he isn't calling you, he isn't interested in seeing you again. It takes two, so pining away for what could have been will get you nowhere. Get out there and try again, but try reading my article How to Keep Your Man first. Stop checking the cell phone every five minutes- it isn't broken it just isn't ringing.
Published by Sarah Barr
I'm a transplant to the South, raised in the North. A teacher and a student. I know a little bit about most everything, but consider myself an expert in nothing. View profile
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4 Comments
Post a CommentSome guys go out of their way to not appear desperate. It's sad that people just can't be honest all of the time but if you don't know the other person too well, you don't want to risk coming off as desperate. Of course, if a decent amount of time passes and he's not contacting you, then yes--he's not that into you.
no sorry this is completely wrong. Guys play games too!!
Funny you should ask about He's Just Not that Into You. I just started reading it. Someone recommended it to me and I am finding it hilarious!
Sound advice. Give it a few days, and if you hear nothing, you know.