Walking in Another's Shoes

With a passion, I can easily say that I hate when people use the phrase "take a walk in another person's shoes." All this is doing is making people realize something they didn't currently understand in a way that goes against there own method of reasoning and understanding.

In a relationship setting, this has everything to do with everything! You should never try to walk in the other person's shoes

Adam unfortunately had an emotional affair with another woman many years ago. At the time Eve was furious. One way they could have worked threw it would have been if Eve took a walk in Adam's shoes, and seen things from his perspective. If she had done this, she would have lost her own perspective regarding the matter. Also, she probably would have thought that the reason Adam was having this emotional affair was because of her, because she was not giving him the amount of attention and respect that he needed from a relationship. EVE WOULD BE WRONG in thinking this. All she would be doing in this example is making excuses of why Adam had the affair. The excuses being it was her fault and that he needed the affair to be sane. This is just playing wrong.

One should never take a walk in another person's shoes inside of your relationship to view there side of a situation. You will just be trying to make an excuse for that person in stead of staying committed to your own view regarding the matter. In the situation with Adam and Eve above, Adam in a sense came out victorious, having done something horribly wrong and tried to manipulate Eve's view regarding the matter to make her think that it was her fault and thus the problem lay with her.

Don't make excuses for your partner regarding situations like this. Listen to what they say, but keep yourself and your own opinions.