Want a Better Sex Life with Your Partner?

Masturbation is a subject that is often considered taboo in our society, especially female masturbation. What people might not be telling you is the wonderful benefits of masturbation. If you feel that you shouldn't be masturbating, and neither should your partner, because it could be harmful to you and your partner's sex life, then reconsider. Masturbation should be a part of every relationship if you hope to have a healthy sex life.

There are many people who will tell you that it is important to avoid completely losing yourself in a relationship, and so it is important to take time for yourself. But, what you do with that time for yourself is just as important as taking the time. Reading books about topics that interest you is a great way to keep in touch with yourself, soaking in a hot bath and taking the time to clear your mind will definitely have a positive effect on your relationship, as will taking the time to pleasure yourself.

The purpose of masturbation may seem quite simple--sexual satisfaction. If you really think about it, however, masturbation can serve several other purposes, all of which can be great for your relationship.

When you take the time to masturbate, you are taking the time to get in tune with your body. Knowing how to warm yourself up sexually means that you will be better prepared to let your partner know what you need and want in the sexual realm.

When you are masturbating you will probably find that your fantasies come out during both the act and the time leading up to the act. Perhaps you watch adult material to get your body ready, well, what kind of adult material are you watching? Is there something in that adult material that could possibly become part of your sex life with your partner? When you are in the act of pleasuring yourself what do you think about? Do you talk to yourself at all? There may be things that you think about or say to yourself that could be incorporated into your sex life with your partner. Maybe they could say the things you say to yourself while you are engaging in sexual acts. Maybe you think about sexual fantasies that your partner could make a reality for you.

Besides for simply helping you keep in turn with your body, masturbation can also help you and your partner to deal with a difference in sex drive. If one person in a relationship desires sex more often than the other, than they may find it less frustrating to masturbate when they feel the need for sexual satisfaction and their partner does not, than to try and figure out another way to solve the discrepancy in sexual desires in your relationship. Masturbation as a way of solving such a discrepancy relieves any pressure off of the partner who desires sex less often, and therefore can reduce any resentment they may feel for the partner who desires sex more often.

If the male half of a relationship has an issue with early ejaculation, then they may find it helpful to masturbate once before initiating sex with their partner. Any time that my partner and I have sex a second time around it definitely takes much longer for him to reach his peak than it does the first time around. If you and your partner are looking to have longer sexual sessions than masturbation before sex may be a great way to strengthen your sex life.

The key to using masturbation as a tool to attaining a healthier sex life is to not only use masturbation as a way of staying in touch with physical self, but also in touch with your mental self. Pay attention to how often you self-pleasure, to what you are thinking while you are in the act as well as before the act, you should also pay attention to your feelings regarding your partner masturbating. Masturbation in a relationship must be different than masturbation outside of a relationship. Make sure that you keep open communication with your partner about the topic. Being aware of what they are feeling about it and what you are feeling about it is very important, otherwise masturbation in a relationship can be more isolating than unifying.