Want a Second Date? Here's How!

You may be wondering why a married woman would be writing an article like this one. Well, I've been trying to help my best friend get a second date and have been doing some research on the subject. What I have found is incredibly fascinating and thought it might be helpful to the masses!

First and foremost, remember the "golden rule"? Do unto others as you would want done to you? That is so important to remember when you're dating! As men should be chivalrous and do the calling and asking for dates, if you really like a guy, you should call him. Don't hound him incessantly, but a man needs to know that you are interested. After a first date, if you want to call him, call him. Don't chat his ear off and come across needy. Maybe just thanking him for a great date. Something I found while doing this research is that men like women that make them feel good about themselves. While you're getting yourself all dolled up and making sure that you look good, all he cares about is how you make him feel about himself. Make sure you're interested in his conversation, even if it's torture! Do make sure you look nice, however, he doesn't want to date a slob!

Sex right away is a big no-no! You've heard the phase, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" It is so true! I am a fan of waiting until you are married! It's so much less complicated that way. Men are sexual, by nature, so if they can get their goods for nothing, why on earth would they want to commit to you? Keep that in mind however hard it may seem.

Be totally honest with each other. Nothing is worse than someone that lies! If something is going too quickly or not fast enough, be honest about it! If you are going to be dating around and not be solely devoted to that particular person, you need to be open and honest about that, too!

Don't over analyze everything to death. Enjoy the dating process, no matter how hard it may seem. People worry way too much about what they should do and what they shouldn't do. Sometimes it's best to just follow your instincts and just be yourself!

If you don't see it working with your date, let them know right away. Don't stand them up, but don't drag out a relationship that's going nowhere. Someone's feelings will get hurt and that's not a fun place to be.

Don't dress TOO sexy on the first date! He may be more interested in your chest than your conversation! Dress nicely, but not so much that he has nothing else to think about!

I hope that some of these tips help you gain a second date! Let me know by leaving a comment if they worked for you! If not, he just may not be "the one". Have fun and don't worry so much about if he's the "one". Date around and just enjoy life!