Was Changing My Image Worth It?

People No Longer Want to Work for What They Have. They Figure "Why Work when We Can Just Take it from You??!!??" is it Because of How I Look?

Kent Tompkins
The first week of August in 2008 was a life changing week for me. I had grown my hair very long since 2007 and I became known for my wild and daring hairstyles. It just so happened that I started to have a lot of problems since I had my hair so long. Although I was an adult, my parents disapproved of the styles of my hair. I also began to have problems with my hair at church. The hair was too much / too wild. I was very defiant and angry because I didn't think anyone had anything to do with me or my hair. I felt that having my hair was my thing and everyone else should just leave me alone. People told me I looked dangerous and like a hoodlum with my hair but I really wasn't bothered by this. After being the stubborn person I am for a couple of months, I decided it was time to cut my hair. This is where the first week of August in 2008 came into play. I decided to cut my hair that Thursday since I had church that night anyway. After the hair cut everyone was surprised and approving of the haircut. I was angry by this because my motto is "Take me as I am or have nothing!!!" but I got over it and decided to show the hair cut off.

About 2 weeks later a good friend of mine invited me and a couple of other friends over so we can relax and talk about old times. I decided since he hadn't seen me with no hair yet, I would surprise him. When we came together he was shocked by my hair cut because he remembered the love I had for my hair. We all laughed and joked and stayed over all night just relaxing and talking. Since I was getting tired and I knew I had Sunday morning service to attend to in about 5 hours I decided to leave along with my other friend. I had my digital camera with me because I wanted to show the guys a few things. While walking to the train station I had my camera on my wrist swinging it back and forward. I saw some guys on the street corner run in my direction. " Let me see that" one of them told me gesturing to my camera. "Na man" I replied. A split second later his fist hit my jaw leaving me in shock. Afterward, about 3 other guys came running to the scene to assist him if me and my friend tried anything and he proceeded to take my camera. I knew then this was a robbery.

While relaxing with my friends we walked around the area several times that night not knowing if these guys were watching us or not. When my friend saw what was going on he ran to my aid telling the guys to "chill" because he knew I caused no trouble. Turns out he knew the guys and he was telling my attacker "I know you man why are you doing this? " The reply from one of the guys with him was "he know you but he don't like ya man". I'm trying to figure out why this was happening and they continued to cause trouble. My friend was blocking me and my attacker and I was struck once more in the face. "This can't be happening I thought. I am not being robbed right now."

After this they took my chain my grandfather gave to me right off of my neck, my cellular phone, my digital camera, my Nike book bag right off of my back, and the $7 I had in my wallet. I had to plead with them to get my wallet back to retrieve my Identification. They threw it to the floor so I can can fetch it. I felt like a dog. It was very sad. One of the guys had his hand in his pants so I don't know what he had with him. Letting them have what they wanted was the best thing to do anyway because it wasn't worth my life or the life of my friend. Thankfully my friend didn't get robbed due to him calling them out loudly and for that they fled the scene. Reality set in that I was just robbed for the first time in my life.

Why can't people work for what they want instead of taking it from innocent people who work hard for anything they have? It is wrong to do this and Karma will come to those who hurt others and steal from them. I thought cutting my hair was a great thing. I don't regret it but when I did have my hair people saw me as a thug type but after I cut it people saw me as a respectable young man which probably made me a target. Maybe I should of had all of that hair to scare those guys off. What's done is done and all that was taken from me is replaced but I still wonder was changing my image worth it? Then I think, GOD is good. I could've been hurt badly but I walked away only with an aching jaw. That's it. So I am glad I changed my image because I am not a thug but I am a child of GOD and if people accept that or not they must see it in me! As for the robbers, they will get theirs. I am not worried or filled with vengeance. Be careful out there people. Please, Be careful.

Published by Kent Tompkins

I am a man with a plan to be great at all I do in life. I enjoy music and dealing with electronics mostly. I also enjoy writing about any topic that comes to mind. Out of all my goals, success is the number...  View profile

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  • Sandy James3/25/2010

    Traumatic!

  • Catherine Spencer.3/25/2010

    Horrible experience. It pays to know what area of a city you should stay out of in the middle of the night. I don't think the length of your hair had anything to do with this robbery!

  • Patricia Sicilia3/24/2010

    So let's see, you look like a thug, people will leave you alone? Pulease. Even if that's true, is that how you want to live your life? Try avoiding neighborhoods where you're liable to get mugged, or walking alone in them. Glad you weren't seriously hurt, tho.

  • Millionaire Hoy3/23/2010

    appearance will play an important part in how you are initially percieved and viewed over a long period of time. It's a good thing to change your experience but only if it is making you a better person and its the best thing for you.

  • Malina Debrie3/22/2010

    It's hard to understand. My two younger sons both had their lockers at school broken into. Very costly shoes were taken in addition to a watch and several dollars. They both told me they felt very angry that someone would break into their lockers. I know how they felt. Years ago while dating my future husband, one of his cronies decided to break into my car. It makes you wonder for sure. Sorry about your experience.

  • James Fenelius3/22/2010

    Kent - thanks for sharing your experience. I am confident those who harmed you will get theirs eventually.

  • Jennifer Bove3/22/2010

    how awful! Thank God you're ok, mentally it can do horrible things so be on the look out

  • Jennifer Bove3/22/2010

    how awful! Thank God you're ok, mentally it can do horrible things so be on the look out

  • Anita Cameron3/22/2010

    That is a scary thing to go through! I think that there are those out there who will do anything to anyone. Three years ago, I was waiting at a bus stop after working late. The bus atop was down the street from a police station. I was mugged right there, and the guy tried to take my cell phone out of my hand while I was talking on it! He must have thought that I was an easy target since I use a wheelchair. He found out the hard way that I wasn't, but I'm not angry. Like the person who robbed you, Karma will bite him when he least expects it. I'm just glad that you were not seriously hurt.

  • Michele Starkey3/22/2010

    Sad, isn't it? What next, cheers, Kent - thank God you're okay :)

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