Ways to Avoid Temptation While Practicing Sexual Abstinence

As we all know abstinence from sexual relations is not as common as it used to be. I believe that part of the reason for this is because it takes a lot of self-control to be abstinent. In this article I'd like to give you some ideas on how to make it easier to stay abstinent. This is not an article about whether or not to be abstinent. This article is to help those who have already decided to remain abstinent. My intentions are to help you to avoid some of the temptations that might come along while you are remaining abstinent.

The first suggestion that I have for you is to analyze why you want to remain abstinent. You want to know what your true motive is for wanting to lead this type of lifestyle. If you know your reason and you feel very strongly about it then it will help you in times of temptations. Once you have decided what your reasons are then I would encourage you to write them down. I would post them somewhere where you can see them all of the time. This will be a reminder to your of what your goals are. This will also make it harder to go against your goals when they are posted. If you go against your goal you will probably feel guilty.

The second suggestion I have for you is to decide to never put yourself in a situation where you will be tempted. If you know that you are going to go on a date then make sure that you always stay in public view. Never be alone with the person. We are human and it is very easy to give in to our desires and needs.

The third suggestion that I have for you is to make sure that you date others that are of like mind with you on this topic. It will make it easier on the both of you if you agree with each other. You can work with each other to try to stay away from temptations. It will also be nice because you will not feel like you are being forced to do something that is against your beliefs. Once you have dated this person for a while you can then talk about how far you want to go when it comes time to get physical. For example, do you want to agree to only holding hands and not kissing? Do you agree with kissing but no French kissing? You decide what you can handle. As I have stated before just be careful not to be alone. There is an old saying that if you both keep your feet on the floor then there will not be any problems. If you stick to this you should be alright.

A fourth suggestion that I have for you is to be careful what your eye sees. What I mean by this is to be careful what you watch on television and on the computer. This can cause you to become aroused very quickly. So be your own best friend and monitor what you watch and take in. Also be careful of what you talk about with your friends. You might want to make sure that you have friends that you can share your way of life with. This way you can encourage one another to stay faithful to your belief.

The last suggestion that I have for you is to get physical. Get involved in something that takes a lot of physical energy such as working out at a gym or join a dance class. This will help some of the frustration that might build up inside of you. It will help to get rid of that extra energy and emotions that can build. When you get home from working out be sure to look at your goals list and tell yourself that you are very proud of yourself. You stayed within your boundaries and your beliefs.