Ways Fathers-to-Be Can Support Pregnant Women

When it comes to pregnancy, many men feel dazed and confused as to how to help their wives or significant others. The woman carries the child, endures the physical changes, brings the baby into the world and expects the father to share the ride with her. I was lucky to have my husband lend me support along the way with all three children we had together. It was a joint effort. Here are some tips where fathers-to-be can help the expectant mom during her pregnancy.

Keep communication lines open. We know that pregnant women go through many changes, both physically and emotionally. It's nice to be able to discuss exciting moments and concerns with our loved ones. From the first bouts of morning sickness, the first kick from the baby to the beginning of labor pains, the father-to-be should be there with open ears to listen and comfort. There may be good days and bad ones, however this is a time for couples to talk and help each other through this wonderful milestone of life.

Spend special moments together. Most men loathe shopping, but this time do it with a fun attitude. The father can help out the expectant mother pick out precious things for their new baby. Create a nursery together and even pick out a cute pair of booties as a couple. Take the time to visit the obstetrician together. Don't let the mother feel like the pregnancy is something she has to contend with alone.

Do little things that show you care. Men vowed to care for their wives in sickness and in health. Although you really can't call pregnancy a sickness, the nice gestures help to keep a woman feeling loved during these long nine months. The little things like pretty flowers, helping with dinner, pitching in with laundry or even drawing a nice bubble bath for the pregnant mom means so much. And if you have prior children, helping with the little ones is a must. Let the roles change periodically where the pregnant lady can put her feet up and relax for a little while.

Reserve some couple time. Make sure to schedule a few date nights before the baby arrives. Even if you have other children, a babysitter may be your best friend. It's nice to keep the pizzazz in your relationship and with a newborn on the way, these dates may have to be postponed or changed to an at home type of entertainment. Be creative and keep the relationship bond strong.

How about a massage? Invest in some massage oil and treat the pregnant lady to a loving massage. It is one of the most appreciated things a father can do for an expecting mother. Not only do massages ease the aches and pains that plague a pregnant body, but the gentle touch spells love.

Put your sex drive on hold temporarily. After the delivery, the new mother needs some time before she is physically capable of resuming sexual relations. Practice some sensitivity and understanding. Pretend you are dating again and no sex on the first couple dates. Relax, all will be great in due time.

Source: personal experience