Ways to Impress Your In-Laws

Do you want to avoid the common in-law rift? There are many ways to marry into a family and become an accepted member. Even if your in-laws make it difficult for you, being respectable and likable will cause them to mellow and invite you into the family with open arms.

Here are five ways to make a good impression.

1. Be Yourself - Don't be fake. Even if you're trying to make a good impression, the in-laws will see through the act. For example, if your natural demeanor is relaxed or laid-back, don't use eloquent speech or make an impression with big words. Despite your best intentions, it'll likely blow up in your face, and you'll be perceived as phony.

2. Arrive on Time - In many instances, the family is looking for a reason to dislike you. Don't give them a reason. If invited to the house for dinner, arrive on time. Also, offer to bring a dish or drink. If you must arrive late, inform the family. Upon arrival, apologize and provide a brief explanation. Justifiable reasons might include working late, stuck in traffic, etc.

3. Be Personable - Meeting your in-laws is nail-biting. However, don't let nerves get the best of you. If you don't know what to say, keep your mouth closed and offer a smile. When panicky, some people start to chatter uncontrollably. By doing this, you risk saying the wrong thing and offending someone, and you appear anxious. Once the in-laws sense vulnerability, they can play on your weakness.

4. Do Not Disrespect Your Spouse - Even if your spouse has a selfish streak and tends to cut you off mid-sentence, keep your cool. Families display strong loyalty. Speaking negatively about your spouse or scolding them may not set well with the in-laws. Your irritation or frustration may be justifiable, and the in-laws may respond similarly. Nevertheless, if the in-laws are determined to give you a hard time, you'll always be viewed as the enemy.

5. Compliment the In-Laws - If invited to an in-laws home, make a good impression by complimenting their home or décor. Don't be phony. If the house isn't decorated, and you compliment the style, they know that you're lying. Perhaps you like the in-laws attire, accessories, or hairstyle, or maybe they cooked a fabulous meal. Let them know that you appreciated the invitation, and offer to return the favor. Plan to cook a homemade meal and entertain the family at your house.