We Need to Express Ourselves in Order to Understand

If the condition for the achievement of understanding is the will to understand, the second condition is that of expressing oneself. Every human being need to express him or herself. Through lack of opportunity for it, one may become sick. Of course it is not only in marriage that we can express ourselves. There are also all those relationships with others in our social world: friends, brothers and sisters, relatives, and so on. However, if a person is married, it is toward is wife that his need to express himself is the greatest. There are men who complain of the poor health of their wives without realizing that the latter are sick simply because their husbands never listen to them.

In order to express oneself, there must be a feeling of warm and kind receptivity and of attentive listening.

Each of us easily finds cause for avoiding real encounter. One wife told me, "When I start to speak to husband about important matters, he puts on his hat and goes out; he heads off to his lodge." Another wife, however, may well interrupt an important conversation in order to go take care f useful matters, but matters which could well be looked after when her husband is at the office. We can easily find duties in order to escape face-to-face relationships. The fact is that many married people flee from it. They are afraid of opening up in depth. They do not take the time which is necessary for it. Even when on vacation they run about seeking every kind of distraction, invite home very haring fiends, friends who enable them to avoid calm and peaceful talk together. A great deal of time must be taken in order to build a true marriage. A deep encounter rarely takes place n a few moments. It must be prepared for by hours of careful drawing together.

Your husband or even maybe your wife is in need for you to understand them. Understanding and communication is essential between a couple, and should not be taken as granted in a marriage relationship. Maintaining a relationship can be harder than starting a new relationship with someone. Ways of interaction vary from one stage of life to another, following the occasions in life i.e. marriage, newborn child, retirement and so on. Couples should learn to grow together and to adjust their pace and communication skills to understand each other better.