We Are Unique and Beautiful Whether They Accept Us or Not!

Us young people have to deal with insecurity or shyness pretty much on a daily basis. Most of us have gotten down on ourselves at some point in our lives because we don't feel that we have enough friends or because we don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend. The sooner we can conquer these kinds insecurities the better. Maybe you have enough friends, but you aren't comfortable with who you are physically. The good news is that we can learn how to surpass these uncomfortable feelings and become as confident or more confident than the most popular kids in school.

One of the most important things I've learned is that if I'm not happy with myself, nothing else can make me happy. Us young people are always looking to be accepted by our peers, but the problem with that is no one else can live in our bodies but us. So we may as well find a way to be happy with who we are. We've all heard the saying, that it's not what is on the outside, but what is on the inside that counts.

Being young it's hard to understand these kinds of sayings, but here we are going to look at examples to show that this is very true. Many of us don't like the way we look or have allowed someone make us feel that way about the way we look. Everyone is unique. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. But truly it's what is on the inside that makes someone pretty or ugly. Music artist Lil Wayne for example, likely would not be attractive to so many females, if he wasn't such a big rap star and didn't have as much money. But instead of focusing on what other people thought about him or focusing on the fact that he cannot change the way he looks, he ignored all that and said to himself, I'm going to be the best rapper alive! He developed character within himself that made him confident and his confidence is really what attracts people to him. It's that character that causes the ladies to look at him as a handsome young man.

Most music artist, athletes, actors, and actresses would be looked at as plain people just like us if you took away their talents and accomplishments. In many cases if you took a look at a picture of them when they were in school you'll really see how unattractive they were physically. The point here is that we can also be transformed into wise and or talented young men and women with many admirers. We don't have to be the most popular boy or girl in school nor do we have to have a boyfriend or girlfriend to get recognition.

If a certain group of people don't accept us, chances are we don't have much in common with them anyway so we should not get down to ourselves about it. We can simply mingle with a different group of people until we find people that have things in common with us. If we like a certain boy or girl, and they don't like us back, we should not get down ourselves about it. It certainly doesn't mean that they are any better than us. And just because someone is physically attractive doesn't mean they have a better life than we do. In the real world (life after school) good looks won't get us anything. In the real world people don't make fun of other people just because they are overweight, have weird hair, dressed different, or talk different. These are things that make us unique. In the real world you don't often hear about people being rejected or accepted because of who they are physically. Certainly not as often as we may have seen 50 to 60 years ago. Now, being of African-American decent, I've got to put this out there because we've got to straighten this out. There are some of us that act like people treat us different just because we're black, but the truth is (whether we're ready to admit it to ourselves or not) people only treat us different, according to the way we act. I know this first hand because I personally have been on both sides of that fence. It's what comes out from the inside that makes the difference. School is supposed to prepare us for the real world. So let's not let things that will make no difference in the real world, affect us in the school world.