Wedding Day Adventures and Tips for Success

A couple's wedding day is a very special occasion. There is no denying that. Whether you are from East or West, your wedding day will undoubtedly be a day you remember for many years to come. I had to overcome many obstacles before I was finally able to walk down the aisle to my husband. But it was all worth it.

I went through such bizarre emotions on my wedding day that I wondered why so called "happiest days of your life" always had to involve feelings of nervousness, nausea and apprehension for me! But as we uttered our vows and were pronounced man and wife such joy and love that I had never experienced before made the whole day worthwhile. We are approaching our fifth wedding anniversary and I am happy to say that we are even happier and more in love now than when we were first married.

Happy marriage is not achieved by pure chance though. I would advise every person contemplating marriage to not be blinded to what the future will bring. It will inevitably involve times of joy, pain and sorrow. The bad times are not often considered, just the endless round of romance and love within the cocoon of bliss that couples enter into at the start of their marriage. Try not to think of just the wedding day, otherwise the end of it will bring disappointment as reality sets in. That is afterall just the "wedding". Marriage is what follows. Do not feel too depressed when the white dress is packed away and the thank you cards have all been posted. It is becoming increasingly common to hear of "post wedding blues". It need not be that way. Remember why you decided to get married in the first place! It was not just to be adored for one day, was it?

For me, and for many others, what is best is what comes after the wedding ceremony. It is getting to know each other much more intimately and becoming the closest family unit, whether children come along or not. Learn to laugh together, play together and spend time together, not allowing work commitments and other issues to crowd out the importance of togetherness in marriage. Remember the great effort each of you went to in order to please the other one when you were dating? You made an effort in your appearance, in what you said and how you spent your time together. It is still important to keep that once you are married and to not take each other for granted. Your spouse should really be your best friend that you can confide in and be your first port of call if a problem comes up. I look at celebrity couples who divorce after a brief marriage and they often say that they "grew apart" or that work was a contributing factor to the breakdown of their marriage. Each and every thing we do involves effort. Why should marriage be any different? There is no greater capacity for personal satisfaction or sorrow than in marriage, as it is such an intimate relationship. So like anything in life, marriage involves hard work. But the rewards far outweigh the work put into it.