Wedding Day Secrets Revealed

The day had finally arrived! Despite all the sayings about April showers it was a gorgeous sunny day. The flowers were blooming and the birds seem to be chirping the perfect melody. I opened my eyes and jumped out of bed to start my hectic day. My Wedding day! The day I will marry the man I have dated for the last four years.

Looking at him standing so regal at the front of the church made my stomach began to turn flips. The last couple of months began to replay in mind. All the preparations, rehearsals, meetings, and loving advice I received from everyone. At that moment all of the words just started flooding my brain. I had less than 15 feet to walk, but I could remember all the loving advice and sayings.

The very first night we announced our engagement at the family's Christmas Party our parent's made sure to tell us the #1 rule of thumb.

"Don't ever fall asleep angry with each other" my father said as he hugged me.

I looked up at him with a strong smile on my face reassuring him that I had no intentions of ever doing so. I already knew to talk out my problems. We went around the whole room with hugs and kisses and stopped to kneel in front of Aunt Carol.

"Come here you two" she said in a sweet wispy voice. We knelt down beside her and listened carefully to her words as she began to tell us about the sweet old days when she married Uncle Albert. I knew this was going to be a long story, but I dared not move or say anything. Aunt Carol was the oldest in the family and she gave great advice.

"In a marriage it's all about compromise, she said shaking her long pointy finger. There will be things that you want him to do, and things he want you to do. That's when you come to a middle ground and respect each other's wishes and compromise. That's how Albert and I made it for over 30 years. "

"Thank You Aunt Carol."

We both said in unison. That advice was great! It took along minute to get it, but it was great I thought. A quick peck on her cheek and we moved on. That night was memorable for me. I cried with my mother as she told me she was proud of me for making such a big step in my life. I also laughed with the family about not being like cousin Larry and ending my marriage in less than a month. I believe they said his mistake was not getting to know his wife well enough. My groom and I both agreed it was long night!

As I approached the arch in the front of church my heart began to pound. Would we make 30 years like Aunt Carol or would we make it 30 days like cousin Larry. Oh, I should turn and run! I tried to focus on the beautiful decorations of roses, carnations, and accents of baby's breath. Then I saw him smile at me. It was wide and made my heart warm. That's when all I could hear was the pastor's words ringing loudly in my mind from marriage counseling.

"Love each other unconditionally! Remember you will become as one. So treat each other with respect, kindness, and honesty. He is your best friend, confidant, and lover. Believe in each other , your marriage and yourself!"

With each step I compiled all these loving words of wisdom and embraced them in my heart. I married the man of my dreams that day. It's been ten years now and I still remember every word.