Wedding Planning: 3 Ways to Deal with In-Law Problems

Love, bells, rings, cake, fighting, hurt feelings. These are some of the things that can come up while you and your loved one are planning a wedding. One of the major issues that come up during wedding planning is dealing with in-laws. Whether it be a controlling in-law, an upset in-law, or even an in-law who won't accept the person you're marrying, you are sure to run into some issue with an in-law during the wedding process. Here are a few ways to handle the different issues that may arise while planning your wedding:

1. Compromise
It's your day, and you know exactly how you want it. Unfortunately, you make come to realize that your mother in-law knows exactly how she wants your wedding also. Although, in some minor cases, it is an example of her trying to relive a wedding that she dreamed of but was unable to have, she probably has great intentions and really wants to help. Whether it is finding something cheaper for you, but not necessarily something you want, or whether it is her trying to invite people who you really don't want to be there, this may cause a problem for you. Always remember, that compromising will help to salvage a relationship with her. Whether you like it not, you are marrying into their family. If there is a part of your wedding you really don't care what you have (favors, where you buy the flowers, etc) then allow her to take care of those responsibilities and you'll be able to avoid conflict in that area.

2. Don't "Just Elope"
Although eloping is fine for some people, it is usually something that happens in lieu of planning a wedding. Once you are already planning a wedding, you may have already paid various deposits for many places and services you plan to have for your wedding. Not only would you lose that money, but you'd be losing out on the wedding that you've been planning and dreaming of. If you just run off and elope to avoid problems with your in-laws while planning the wedding, you'll be creating a whole new set of problems with your in-laws.

3. Talk Things Out
Many times, especially when conflicts arise in the wedding planning process (and they will), each side thinks that the other one is being too harsh and is just trying to control everything. Many of the arguments arise out of hurt feelings, and misunderstandings. The best thing to do is to talk things out, and to get to the bottom of what is really is going on. Most of the time you will see that something was said wrong or that it came off wrong to the other party, and that the whole conflict was about nothing and that it could have been avoided. Whatever the case is, sit down, talk about it rationally, and try to see the other person's point of view.

Your wedding is going to be one of the biggest days of your life. Don't ruin it by having your fiancé(e)'s family hating you. Compromise when you can, don't just elope, and talk problems out and you'll be able to move forward and enjoy your wedding (and especially enjoy the honeymoon!)