Welcoming Your Spouse from Combat

Congratulations, you've finally received the words you've been longing to hear. Your spouse is returning home after combat. In this article you will learn tips on how to welcome your loved one home.

Most likely there are other members of your family, and friends, who want to welcome your spouse home. You might as well accept the fact that their initial homecoming will be shared with others. Schedule a "Welcome Home Party," with a set start and end time. This will give your spouse the opportunity to see everyone, while setting the boundary for time for you two, and perhaps your children.

Upon returning from combat, your spouse may initially feel disconnected. Be mindful that they have been in extreme circumstances and that it will take some time before they are comfortable in their new surroundings. They may need to adjust to a new time zone. They may experience sleep disorders including nightmares. Other responses may include nervousness, agitation, trouble eating, headaches and sadness. These are all common reactions to people returning from combat.

You can best support your spouse by respecting, and acknowledging, the transition they are experiencing. Understand that you two will have to get reacquainted again. Your sexual relationship may be uncomfortable for a while. Keep communication open and listen empathetically. As you and your spouse rebuild your relationship, you will both benefit from sharing personal experiences that occurred during the time apart.

It is common for young children to be shy when a spouse returns after an extended leave, while older children may be angry. Their adjustment is a process and is best handled with patience and understanding. You have been the disciplinarian while your spouse was away. You and your spouse will have to relearn how to be on the same page with disciplining your children.

Above all, let your spouse know how deeply they are appreciated for their dedication and service.