What Bad Single Parents Do and Don't Do

Let me start out by saying the information I am writing about has been obtained not only through a fairly long life of knowing many single parents, but also from when I was a counselor for children and families. Its amazing what some single parents are capable of.

I am going to start off with my biggest pet peeve, single parents who have their new found loves sleep over. This is one of the most dangerous things a single parent can do. They have no idea who this new person really is, and yet, they are allowing them to sleep over in the dame house with their children. What part of dumb don/t they understand? Children who are molested can be molested by the single parent's new boyfriend or girlfriend. There you are snoozing the night away, while Mr. or Mrs. Wonderful slips into your child's bedroom. If the single parent would have taken the time to really get to know this person well, this may be avoided. When a single parent puts their sexual needs before the safety of their child, this is what's called a bad single parent.

Some single parents believe having and taking drugs around their child is acceptable. You may here one of them say, the kid is too young to know anyway. What does that have to do with the lack of safety of the child. If the drugs are smoked the child is being subjected to the drugs as well. If their pills, what is this parent who is higher than a kite going to do when an emergency with their child occurs? It certainly wouldn't be the first time a toddler, or young child found their parent stash and overdosed on it. Unfortunately, the parent is too out of it, to even notice. Yes, parents who do any kind of illegal drugs around their child of any age is a bad parent in my book. I knew to many single parents when I was counseling not to be concerned about this one. However, as we all know an addicts drug always comes before any person, including their child.

It's party time. Yes, there are those single parents who go out partying almost every night. If their kids are somewhat lucky they will at the least have a responsible babysitter, although some don;t have any. This bad single parent thinks there fun and entertainment is more important then actually being there to raise their children. Why they didn't.t think about this before getting pregnant is a subject to ponder for a lifetime. Some will swear that they saw their children during the day or after school, so night time is Mommy time. Well, that sounds all fine and good, but the reality is that the single parents who go out and party almost every night, usually don;t do that much better at parenting during the day. Of course a single parent has a right to go out one night a week because they do need time to themselves, but when it's every night, than the parent is bordering on the line of neglect.

Revolving love interests are one way to truly damage your kids emotionally. These type of single parents have so many men or women coming and going the kids can't see straight. By the time the kid is five, he has had multiple new Mommy's and Daddy's. Kids start to believe Mommy and Daddy mean people who come and go. Do these single parents ever consider what this is doing emotionally to their children? Absolutely not or they wouldn't be doing it in the first place. Children get very easily attached to people, especially when they are younger. These constant losses of affection, and attention can be devastating to them. These type of children, could end up inevitably with some type of abandonment issues, and or attachment disorders. Never mind what this is teaching the kids about what;s right and wrong, and who Mommy or Daddy is. Yes, these type of bad singles parents consider no one but themselves, and hardly give a thought to how what they are doing is affecting their kids.

Now that we have some of the horrible things a single parent's does out of the way, let's look at what they don't' do that makes them so bad.. Well, these types of parents certainly do not put their children before themselves. When you put your child first, you do at all times what is always in their best interest. They obviously don't know how to parent in the first place. Good parenting skills usually make for a healthier, happier child. They don't care about the welfare of their child. When you care about your child's welfare you make good decisions that will benefit them, not harm them. They just don't care. Many of these types of parents could care less what happens with their children as long as their getting what they want, when they want it. In other words they're just plain selfish. However, the worst thing these parents don't do, is give them the love, affection and caring that most children crave, along with the hope for a future that is better than what they started out with. These children often grow up in a cloud of despair.

Yes, "Which came first the chicken or the egg?" is so appropriate when it comes to the bad single parent. After all what their not doing is just as harmful as what they are doing, when it comes to the life and well being of their children!