What Cheating Is

Ok so this seems like a really easy question to answer, but its not. I asked this question to men and women and received typical responses. Here was the most common answer: Having sex with another person. I mean that is pretty obvious but is that it? Hell na! I consider cheating to be (here comes Maia's long definition) anything that is done with another person, that is not your partner, that they would not approve of, and that you would not approve of, if the shoe was on the other foot. For example, going out to dinner with someone is a form of cheating to me. Even if nothing happens. First of all it is disrespectful to your partner and secondly, it could be done in the presence of your partner.

To me it is a fact that men and women can not just be friends. And I don't want to hear the age old quote "oh we're just friends" or "I knew him or her before I knew you", or "I grew up with this person." So freaking what! That still doesn't mean a thing. Because the bottom line is: men and women don't just hang on to friendships, just because of those reasons up above, or because you have so much in common. There are ulterior motives on one of their parts if not both. Here is some food for thought, and be honest to yourself.

Ladies, for every man that you consider to be your friend: are you slightly attracted to them? Are they cute in your eyes? If you were single and opportunity presented itself would you? And lastly have you already hooked up this person in the past? I'm sure we all can answer yes to one of those questions and if you truly honestly can not then that person will be able to answer yes to one of those questions. I mean how many stories have you heard of friends having sex with each other, then they regret it because it messed up their friendship, now things aren't the same anymore. Gimme a break, stop blaming the alcohol and blame the truth. Deep down there was no real friendship, it was all just ulterior motives. I mean how often do you meet someone and say oh yea we will just be friends. And do you really think you were approached because some one thought that you all had so much in common? Yes, even co-workers; and that is why you should not be having lunch with them. Whether you like them or not, or are attracted to them sexually, they are to you and that is why this so-called friendship is lingering.
I'm not trying to get off the subject, but this is the form of cheating that people don't think about or feel justified in doing. The whole friend thing. If men and women could just be friends then there would be no jealousy when the opposite sex calls for you, or takes you out, or buys you a gift for your birthday. But there is because of an experience that your partner might have had with someone who was just a friend. Or maybe its there because your partner can see right thru the bulls..t. All in all cheating does not just have to be a physical thing. It can be mental or emotional also. And that is the type of cheating that you need to be wary of.