What to Do when Your Child is Seriously Ill!

Children are a special thing. They make us laugh, cry, and sometimes shout but nothing they can do can stop us from loving them or wanting them to have a happy, safe life. Sometimes we do not always get what we want. Sometimes are children are born with a illness or a dysfunction and it can make us feel as if we are alone, as if no one understands what we are going through or even what your child is going through.

These are very hard times, when your child is born different. We struggle to find answers. We struggle to find a solution. We struggle to understand why this is happening to are child.

I understand all of this because I have a son and he is two years old. Like all children, my son is special but unlike other children there is something wrong. My heart tells me there is something wrong and I don't know what it is. He does not talk. He hits his head on everything to the extent he bruises himself. He screams uncontrollably.

Than I am asking myself the same questions you may have asked yourself time and again.

"Did I do something wrong?"
"Did I not read enough to him?"
"Did I not hold him enough?"

I know I am not the only parent out there going through a health issue with there child yet I feel as if I am all alone. I feel like no one can understand what I am going through. Just the other day I was talking to my mother and my son began to scream and scream. She asked me "Can't you do something to stop him?" and I started crying. I said "I am but I don't know what to do. How do you stop your son from trying to kill himself?"

And that is where my fear lies. That he will hurt himself so bad that he will end up killing himself or hurting himself really bad. To be honest, I don't have the answers. I don't know what to do.

Everything I have read says talk to your doctor. Talk to specialist and I have done both. I went so far as to record my son for multiple days so his doctor could see exactly what I was talking about. I have gotten to the point where I am demanding a cat scan just to make sure he is not causing any damage or that there isn't a tumor causing him to act the way he does.

This is my life and it is very frustrating, scary, and unknown. I tell you this because I know at one time or another we have all felt alone and felt as if there are no answers to are questions. But there are things you can do to help make the time in your child's life, and yours, a lot more easier.

The first is to remember you are not alone. The internet is a universe of its own with plenty of forums where you can talk and share your feelings and stories. By talking to someone you will find someone that understands what you are going through and perhaps has experienced the same thing.

Do not let anyone push your feelings aside. If you think there is something wrong force the issue. Most doctors are more than willing to do a Cat Scan or MRI but sometimes you do have to ask for it.

Try not to stress over it. This one is a lot easier to say than to believe but it is very important. It could be something as simple as laziness or something as bad as a tumor. Until you know for sure letting yourself worry over it will hurt you worse, especially in a time when you need to remain strong.

Don't blame yourself or others. What is going on with your child is an unfortunate even but blaming someone else or yourself does not help. Just remember you are not at fault for what is wrong.

Always remain calm. It is easy to allow are emotions to show in a stressful situation but in doing so are children is seeing this negativity. By remaining calm we are helping them out a lot and if you need to take a few minutes for yourself.

Finally, good or bad it is important to remember you are never alone. I feel alone but I know I am not alone and if I needed someone to help me I could have it and I hope that these tips will help out another parent going through a situation with their own child.