What Are the Common Causes of Kids' Behavior Problems?

In my years of teaching, I encountered lots of kids with behavior problems. It is really tough to deal with it. It makes my day very difficult and tiring. I often asked myself, how their parents handle them at home that made these kids so hard to manage in school? I'm so exhausted at the end of the day dealing with these kids. I usually called the parents' attention for a one on one talk about their child's behavior and here's what I found out why kids display unpleasant behavior in school.

Most Common Causes of kids' behavior problem.

Their Parents have marital problems. Some marriages are in shaky conditions, there were parents who were not together anymore and the kids are emotionally and mentally affected due to the separation. They were confused of the setting, living with two different homes in a scheduled basis. There was one time that a kid asked his both parents if they can be together to dine out on his birthday. That would be so difficult for the parents because they already have another family. The wife or the husband of the other would not allow it. It was so frustrating to the child. In this scenario, I understand why his behavior is so difficult to handle because he used the school as the outlet of his emotions. Being a teacher is not merely teaching the kids how to read and write but also to give them love and understanding. That is what they need not the scolding or punishment because they misbehaved in class. As a teacher, it is very important to know the background of each individual child in order to deal with them accordingly. It is hard to understand the child if we don't know why he acted that way. Once the cause of that behavior is identified, we can make some adjustments on how to deal with the kid.

Parents are Busy they have no time to spend with their kids. they don't even know what's going on in their child's life. They just entrust them to the care taker, baby sitter, grandparents or day care centers. They can hardly see each other. When the child leaves for school the parents are still sleeping because they came home late at night from work, or they left very early in the morning for work while the kid is still asleep. I had a kid in my class who was in this situation. Her mother is a single mom and is busy working. They can hardly see each other. The child grow up under the care of her grandmother. She is really craving for attention. In the classroom, she keeps on bothering others during class time, talking, walking around, not doing what she suppose to do during activity time and she never listens when you tell her to do something. She just calm down when you spend time talking to her nicely. Well, if the teacher doesn't know the kid's problem at home, it would be very difficult to handle this situation. So, when parents has no time for their kids it can cause behavior problems to kids.

Parents don't Care to impose Discipline at Home. There are parents who don't really care to reprimand their kids when they are rude and showed disrespect to others and even to them. It pissed me off when I see kids yelling and screaming and the parents just don't do anything to stop them. These type of kids are really pain on the neck of the teachers in school. And what is more annoying is that, the parents would complain when their kids will be disciplined in school for that unruly behavior. I encountered these type of parents and what I did was to tell them that it is really necessary to do this to help their child improve in many ways but if if they will not allow the teacher to impose proper discipline to their annoying and disrespectful kids, they better take them out and put them in the place where they should belong. Most parents will really cooperate and would understand if we know how to deal with them properly. When parents don't care to reprimand the bad behavior of their kids at home, their kids will be a problem anywhere in the society.

Abusive parents will lead to kids' unpleasant behavior in the classroom. It might be verbal abuse or physical abuse because they are too perfectionist and the child can not come up with what the parents want. Some parents are hot tempered, easily get angry then they say hurting words to the child or physically hurt them. This would developed the bad behavior of kids. They want to revenge and their outlet is the school. They are irritable, hard to deal with , very unreasonable and would even resort to verbal and physical fights. Parents don't realize that their dealings with their kids affect a lot in their child's performance in school socially, mentally and emotionally. The teaching profession is not an easy role to play. It needs a lot of patience, love and understanding. Teachers are not only molding the minds and characters of the kids but also mending it. Abusive parents produced kids with behavior problems.

Parents and teachers should work hand in hand to help the kids improve in many ways. The teacher can not do it by himself without the cooperation of the parents. Instead of blaming each other for the kids' unruly behavior, it's better to have open communication, helping one another for the good of the child.