What Constitutes Abuse?

The easiest, most ordinary abuse is that of neglecting one's child. I have done college studies that supported the fact that poor people have been so busy finding ways to survive that they have ignored their children. Also, rich families have neglected their offspring but not nearly as often as the poor class.

Likewise, I have much experience with counseling others for abuses and I grew up in a poor family as well so I know firsthand what it is like to be poor and abused.

At any rate, looking at neglect and what it really is, we see that the list is long.

When parents or guardians do not provide:

food

shelter

safety

supervision

clothing

education

attention/love

medical/dental treatment

It is considered abuse by most definitions.

At the same time, this dilemma is heightened by the ignorance of the parents when it comes to parenting skills.They pass off the negative

Likewise, I encourage any parent to go to parenting classes via hospitals, mental health centers and such. Get educated on parenthood. Don't just settle for the old patterns that are known as abuse today. If these needs are not met, it is an abusive relationship that parents are creating with their sons and daughters.This is neglect and it is abuse by many standards.

In addition, Physical abuse may very well be the fastest to recognize because of the clues on the body.It is very evident when one gets slapped, hit, punched, beat on, burnt, kicked, or stabbed, but what about pain that does not show up? Like pushing, pulling, shaking, molesting, twisting, grabbing, pinching, etc? This is absolutely abuse and a lot of the time it is rationalized to be okay.

As a result, sexual abuse must be considered as any form of touching, exploitation of one's body, or asking one to perform sex acts. There is much more that actually is defined as sexual abuse. This does, in deed, include taking photos of someone for sexual related gratification. Even comments about sexual acts to someone or about ones body in relation to sex and on and on the list goes.

Likewise, being forced in any way against your will is abuse.This means dates, boyfriends, girlfriends, and family members as well. What happens here is that you are made to feel SHAMED in any relationship. Abusive relationships are not always a violence that is physical.

In comparison, emotional abuse happens when one feels threatened or humiliation as a result of interaction with another person. Emotional abuse does have a denial that is sometimes hard to break. Name calling, yelling, insulting, and damaging your possessions, are only a few ways to try to gain control over someone. It is not hard to spot once one learns about the subject.

In fact, control is what is at the core of this emotional abuse. It does involve animosity, jealousy, mistrust, accusations, and commanding one to do or not do something.This can often be rationalized as passionate love! Moreover, the damage is usually not immediately evident.Here are some big red light indicators of emotional abuse so please take it serious:

Mental abuse as harassment can be constant calls, text messages,e mails, or other ways to check up on you when you are not with her or him.You find yourself lying about what he/she has done, said, or treated you like, what you are allowed to do or say or who you can be with, visit, etc. Jealousy when you spend time talking to or being with other people. Putting you down, especially when you are with others or calling you names = Humiliation. Calling you any of these types of names = verbal abuse: idiot, stupid, ugly, fat, wimp, sissy, no good, dumb, goofy, retarded, ass words, skinny, picks on a handicap, blaming you for faults not yours to own, etc. His behavior that you feel a need to make excuses for or say you are sorry about. You have seen him be condescending toward others or hurt other people. You have fear about upsetting him, or have anxiousness, or unhappiness in the relationship. You do not spend much time with any of your friends, you feel isolated, controlled by him. You are really afraid of making him upset, angry, mad at you, or whatever. You down yourself or even maybe have hatred for self, especially when you are together. Hearing statements such as, " If you leave, I will kill myself, or "I cannot live without you " Or any similar words such as this. It is a way for him to try to convince you to own his problem by making you feel guilty. There are many, many resources out there for victims to find help. There are self help groups worldwide. Take it serious, look at the news!