What is Domestic Abuse?

There are different kinds of abuse we face today. There is physical and emotional abuse. Physical abuse is when the abuser hits, pulls the hair, slaps, punch, use weapons, forces to have sex, or unwanted sexual touching. Another explanation is having bruises all over your body, which is physical abuse. Another abuse is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse occurs when you insult in public, the abuser puts down your friends and family. Emotional abuse is also when the abuser calls you names, make you think you are crazy, play mind games, and make you feel guilty for his actions. The abuse could also consist of threatened, using intimidation, children, and isolation. The violence occurs more often with women, and children. However, the violence is also occurring in male and elderly people. It is hard to help a woman that is involved in a domestic violence relationship. Some women love their partners. They would not leave the house. They believe their partner would change. Other women believe is their fault for being treating this way. Some do not want to leave their homes because they do not have money to survive or no education. Other women are tired of the abuse that they want to leave, but are scare of their partners actions when they leave. They feel that sometimes society could fail to protect them.

Now I ask women, what is emotional abuse, and how do you know if you are being emotional abuse. Most women said that emotional abuse is everywhere, not only with a partner, it could occur outside the house. Emotional abuse for them is when someone puts you down, and calls you names, threats, insults you outside or inside the home.

When I ask the same question to couple of men, they said that emotional is when you threat or insult someone in front of another person. They do not consider emotional abuse by calling each other names, or putting you down in their private home, or not giving you money for your expenses.

Now here are some examples I would like to know if they are emotional or physical abuse.
A. There is a young couple that has been married for 5 years. They separated once, because the male partner would physical abuse the female partner. They decide to get back together, but things are little different. This time the woman controls the money, and the household to some point, not until the male partner gets mad. THe woman partner tells him how to waste his money and what bills should be pay. The male partner listen to her, but when he gets mad, he starts throwing things and destroying stuff. He tells her that he is tired of her controlling him. He feels that he is treating like a child. He also states that she does not meet his needs. The female partner tells him, she would leave him if he does not comply with her rule. The female partner is not violent; the male partner once in while grabs the female partner and pushes her to the bed. Now is this emotional or physical abuse? Who is the abuser?

B. The male partner is being mean to the female partner. The male partner plays mind games, and put the female down in front of her family. The male partner likes to provoke and always sparks argument with female partner. The female partner wants to walk away but the male partner does not let her .The female partner is not violent person, but she gets tired of being trapped in a corner. The female partner gets mad and hits him. This is the only way the male partner would leave her a lone. Is this physical or emotional abuse? Who is the abuser?

C. The male partner is always abusing the female partner. One day the female partner gets tired of his abuse, and start fighting back. Both of them have bruises on their body. The female partner only fights back when he abuses her. The female partner does not tell anyone. Is this emotional abuse or physical abuse? Who is the abuser?

This questions that I posted here, where ask to friends and family. I receive different responses from different member. Some members would blame the male partner, and some would blame the female partner. What do you think? Domestic Violence is a big problem today, not only in the United States by other different part of the world. What is domestic violence? Domestic Violence is an abuse, which a partner seeks to claim power and control over the partner. The abuser tries to control the partner's actions, emotions and uses physical abuse with the other partner. Domestic Violence is a violent argument between family or household members relating physical harm, sexual assault, or fear of physical harm. Domestic violence could occur just to anyone. Domestic violence could occur to a female, male, children, and elderly, just anybody. Most people think that this cannot happen to them or they just do not recognized when they are being abuse. Most cultures grow up seeing this violence in the household and believe this is normal.