What Girls Need To Know About Online Sex Offenders

Just about every young girl dreams of meeting the perfect boyfriend. She has a mental image of exactly what Mr. Wonderful will be like. He's a nice guy, he cares about her and they have so much in common. They love the same kind of music, play the same games and even share the same likes and dislikes in clothes. Her head is filled with fantasies of what the future will hold too. They will date for a while, then marry and have the perfect family too.

For any number of reasons, girls may not find a suitable date at school or in their local community so they turn to the Internet chat rooms and social networks in search of someone to fall in love with.

It can be fun and exciting to form online relationships and it is possible to find an online buddy who is very similar to having a boyfriend. There is nothing quite as electrifying as racing home from school, signing on to your favorite instant messenger or logging into your favorite social networking site and seeing that special buddy waiting to talk to you.

In a growing number of cases, young people believe that they have met someone truly fabulous online but he's not who he portrays himself to be. He is actually an adult and is a sex offender looking for a victim. He tells you he loves you, he cares about you, and he spends every waking moment chatting with you. He's everything you've ever dreamed of and you've seen his picture and talked to him on the phone.

You believe that you know all about him. Unfortunately, there are some things that you probably don't know about him because he is an expert at covering them up. You don't know that he is really an adult much older than you who has a sexual interest in much younger girls. His whole game plan is to chat with young girls to make them feel comfortable, make them feel wanted and make them feel so special that they won't think twice about meeting them in person.

You might think you know how to tell if someone is dangerous and you may think you can spot an online sex offender from a mile away. Many young girls are positive that they will know a sex offender if they see one. You may believe that he would look like a creepy old man with dirty clothes on and have an old wrinkled face.

The truth is, some sex offenders do look like that but most of the time they are very average looking and may be someone that you are attracted to. A sex offender is very sharp and has many years of experience in assuming fake identities and deceiving young girls into believing that they are anything but a sex offender.

In most cases, the online sex offender appears to be friendly, affectionate, kind-hearted and genuinely interested in you as a person. He is very interested discussing how he wants to develop a relationship with you and may even suggest that he would like something long term as in marriage and he may mention having adorable children with you. He will probably tell you that you are his soul mate and that he loves you more than anything. He will also have a reason as to why it is important that the relationship needs to be kept a secret. If you are not allowed to talk about the relationship with your friends and family, you are probably talking to a sex offender who plans to abuse you and forget you.

Don't be fooled into believing a sex offender. In reality, each sex offender is talking to hundreds of other girls under several online identities at the same time the sex offender is telling them all the very same things he is telling you. He tells each of them that they are his one and only girlfriend too.

The sex offender will talk to you about what real true love is and according to him, it always involves some form of sexual activity. He will engage you in sexually explicit conversations while chatting and sex is almost always the focus of every conversation. The sex offender will ask for your phone number and if he does talk to you on the phone, he will want you to do sexual activities while you are on the phone with him.

The online sex offender will ask you to watch him while he is naked or doing a sex act on Web cam. He will also ask you to appear naked or do sex acts on Web cam. He will ask you to send him pictures and usually asks for nude pictures to be e-mailed or postal mailed to him. The sex offender is likely to be capturing the video from your Web cam and recording it to his hard drive. He is likely to be sharing and exchanging it with other sex offenders online. This activity is illegal but he is the one that will be in trouble and he is willing to take the risk.

It may take a few days, weeks, or months but eventually the sex offender will arrange to have a face-to-face meeting. He will ask you to meet him at a fast food restaurant, shopping center, or even a motel or hotel. He will tell you that he wants to have sex with you and he will detail every moment from the time he pick you up until the time that he drops you off.

The online sex offender's main intention is to meet young girls for his own sexual gratification. He may also plan to take pictures of the two of you having sex or pictures of you in sexually explicit positions. He will use the pictures to relive the experiences at a later time when he is alone and he is very likely to share them with other online sex offenders that he networks with. Nearly all sex offenders have a very large collection of pictures that he has obtained from his past victims.

Don't let an online sex offender trick you into becoming his next victim. Here are some things to keep in mind when you are chatting online:

· People are not always who they claim to be. It is very common for a sex offender to lie about their age, send you a picture of someone else, and even lie about their location.

· Avoid answering questions about your sexual experiences or about sex in general.

· Withhold your personal contact information and don't give it to your online friends. Don't allow online friends to call you on the phone or send gifts to your house.

· Think twice when an online relationship is just too amazing to be true. You could be talking to a sex offender.

· Remember that you are in control and you are allowed to say, "no" to meeting anyone in real life.

· If you have already been raped or sexually assaulted by someone you met online, please talk to an adult such as a parent, a school counselor or someone else that you trust. You can also contact your local police or other law enforcement. It is never your fault and you will not be in trouble.