What to Do When His Friends Think He's Too Good for You

You can tell by the way they look at you and exclude you from their conversations. They think you are not good enough for him. You don't know why because when you bring it up your man will say, "Oh, they like you just fine." Or "You're trying too hard."

Still, you know it; they know it and something must be done before he knows it!
You can ingratiate yourself to his friends in subtle ways that they won't even recognize, if you know just a few tricks.

1. Feed them. Men like to eat and when their mouths are full they can't be talking behind your back. Know a good cookie or nacho recipe? Have half a plate of their favorite lying around the next time you expect to see them. (Half a plate makes it look like you just happened to have some left and didn't go out of your way...and this be trying...to with their affection.) If you are meeting them on their turf keep some in a big bag that you carry a lot. If they offer you a snack pull out your own and ask them to try it.

2. Learn what they know. If your guy's friends are into football enlist one of your friends who is also into football to teach you the game or go online and find an explanation site. You can find videos to teach you to play guitar, make movies, throw darts, make beer...whatever you want to learn that they spend a lot of time doing. (Warning: Don't try to impress with your new knowledge, just comment naturally when the situation calls for it. For instance,when the ball is intercepted:"Go baby go! 1^st down!" or When someone throws three darts and hits the bulls eye with each: "Whoa that's the first hat trick I've seen in months." Or when tasting a new beer: "I don't like the bite of this, I like a beer a little more aged."

3. Don't gossip. Sometimes guys will treat you like an outsider when they think that everything they do will get back to their own girlfriends. Keep your mouth shut and when they ask you to spill a secret prove that you can keep your mouth shut by doing so!

4. Explain your reputation. If one of his friends lets it slip that they think you are less than faithful to your guy step up and tell them that you are! Maybe they have seen you hanging out with your brother's friends, or know that your best friend is a guy. Let them know that those other men are on a completely different plane than your boyfriend and that you would NEVER!

5. Stay in control of yourself. If his friends think you are too "psycho" or "run his life" maybe it's because they have seen you throw a fit about something he has done that seems innocent to them. Never fight with your mate in front of his friends. It belittles him and makes you look like a shrew. Arguments should be conducted in private where both parties have an equal opportunity to question and defend, not in a situation where things you say can make him look like a fool and he will be unable to defend himself.

In most cases your mate's friends are the family he has made for himself. If you want to be part of his family you must investigate your differences and similarities and let your personality mesh with theirs.