What to Do If the Bride or Groom Has Cold Feet

When the bride or the grooms gets cold feet, It can be a devastating thing, but it is better to get cold feet in the beginning than to get it in the midst of the marriage. This is why I suggest that the two obtain counseling from their pastor or the person who will be performing the ceremony. If the wedding is called off it can be a heart-breaking situation, but once again I will say that it is better to go through this now than to be on divorce court nine months later.

If the bride or groom is just nervous about the wedding in general they can be coached through the butterflies, but if there is any type of doubt or uncertainty about the person this would need to be addressed immediately by both parties and possibly a mediator.

If the groom and bride is getting cold feet, I would suggest that they sit down and tell their partner. Explain to their partner why they feel this way. During this conversation find out if the date should be postponed or canceled? Will the relationship continue? Should the relationship end? Marriage is a very serious step and it should be approached as such.

If either partner has cold feet it does not mean that it is something that the other party has done. It could possibly be something in their past that has hurt them badly, something that they have not dealt with before moving on to the present relationship. I must say that this may not be a comfortable or comforting matter to the other partner. I would suggest that the other party step back and give them their space. Hopefully a lot of money has not been invested in the ceremony yet.

It is better to go through this now, than to go through it later. Just remember the sun will shine again.