What to Do If Your Child Thinks They Are Too Old for a Babysitter

There comes a time in every parent's life when their child thinks they are too old for a babysitter. "Aw Mom," they might complain, "babysitters are for babies!" Your initial reaction will probably be a combination or sorrow that your child is growing up so fast, fear of the possibility of them staying home alone, and pride in their independent nature. What do you do if your child thinks they are too old for a babysitter? That answer depends largely on if you agree with them or not.

Too Old for a Babysitter - Yes!

After careful consideration and getting over your anxiety somewhat, you may decide that your child is old enough to be on his or her own without a babysitter. There are several important considerations to take before making this decision.

First, are there any laws in your state, city, or township that prohibit children from staying home alone. For example, in New Jersey, no child under twelve may stay home alone for any reason. Never break the law in leaving your child without a babysitter.

When you are sure you are abiding by all applicable laws, be sure your child knows all safety procedures and what to do in different circumstances. Instructions about fire and flood are fairly easy: get out and stay out and alert a trusted neighbor. You should also be sure they know what to do if the phone rings, someone comes to the door, or something breaks or stops working.

Too Old for a Babysitter - No!

Even if your child thinks he or she is too old for a babysitter, you may not agree. If your child is too young according to the law, or you are just not comfortable with them being responsible for themselves quite yet, there are good ways to smooth their wounded pride.

Change babysitters. Perhaps the lady who watched your child since they were a baby is still treating them like a little tot. Getting a new child care provider and calling it something other than a babysitter can help. Look for a teen or young adult who likes to do active games, sports, or art projects. If you cannot change babysitters, sit down and have a conversation with them about changing roles in the household. Stress the importance of letting your child have more independence and make more decisions for themselves.

When it comes down to it, a babysitters job is to keep your child safe and entertained when you are not around. If you are not confident that your child can do that for themselves, there must still be a child care provider around, even if your child does not agree.