What to Do If a Coworker Stinks

I'm not sure how to put this, but a woman in my office has started to stink. One day, she came to work and smelled of B.O., but most of us just blew it off. The next day, she was rank. When she walked by my desk on the third day, she triggered my gag reflex and my eyes began to water! She's a sweet soul, though she's always been a bit of a flake. I don't know her well enough to address the issue with her directly, but something has to be done. Any suggestions?

ANSWER: Offering hygiene tips to co-workers can be tricky.

The thing is, she's probably aware of the problem. From what you said, it doesn't seem like she's had this issue before. And, since she has a "sweet soul," her feelings might be hurt if her odor isn't addressed properly.

Some would suggest that you and/or your co-workers leave aroma therapy candles on her desk, or even put a stick of deodorant or bottle of cheap perfume in her desk. Pay no attention to that advice. While well-meaning, it may come across as...well, mean. Instead, there are three far better solutions:

Speak to her friend. She seems to be a nice person, and nice people generally have friends or confidants at work. Mention the physical reactions you're having and ask him/her if s/he could mention the situation to her. Without mentioning your name, of course.

Speak to supervisor. If she isn't close to anyone at work, another option is to address it with a supervisor. If your supervisor lacks the tact or people skills needed, another supervisor in a near-by department may be able to speak to her.

Speak to her privately. Even though you said you don't know her that well, this may be your chance to do some good. Ask her if everything is alright. It might not be all her fault - the water main on her street may have burst, she may be remodeling her only bathroom and can't take a shower for a few days, etc. If you don't feel comfortable inviting her to your place to take a shower, offer to take her to your gym if you workout. Barring that, most truck stops have showers available for only a couple dollars. Your efforts might just win you a new friend.

IN A NUTSHELL: If a co-worker smells, speak to her friend or a supervisor. Or, make a friendly overture to help her find a place to bathe.

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