What Impressions Are We Giving Our Youth About Sex?

The young girl was very uncomfortable while she watched her aunt bring yet another , different guy into their home. And the looks that her dates gave this 14-year old were un-nerving, and she was afraid of them.

She decided to ask her aunt one day, why did she have to deal with so many different guys. And her aunt replied, "Honey, you'll never find that 'perfect' man, so it's best that you have a bunch of them to make up for him."

Needless to say, the young girl took the advice, and ended up losing her virginity to a 30-year old man.

We, as adults must be very careful about how we present sex to our youth. Children are very impressionable, and will definitely heed the words of their elders. So, if you give them the wrong impression about sex and life, they are sure to take that road to disaster.

When our children turn on the televisions, the fist thing they see is sex, even if they watch cartoons; There is some sort of representation pertaining to sex. When they listen to the radio, majority of the songs are relative to and about sex.

We all know that sex is a part of us, naturally and has been since the beginning of time. But that doesn't necessarily mean that we must take it upon ourselves to misguide/direct, and prejudicially educate our youth about sex; Give them expectations that are un-attainable, nor reachable.

Teens hear and learn about sex in so many places: through their parental environment/interactions, such as at home; Television/radio; schools, neighborhoods; communities and lastly-Church; Yes, I said Church.

I know you're wondering how can they be influence at Church. Well in this case, we're going to use the Church as a place for educating them on how to keep it sacred, okay.

But as far as the other influences, these put so much emphasis on sex like it's a game- filled with so much competition and misunderstanding, misdirection, and intensity, where the prize sought after is actually non-existent. One may can argue the facts, and state that our youth are somewhat 'pressured' about sex.

It's so often that they are misguided and un-educated on it, until they are forced to fend for themselves when it comes to making the right decisions about it! And this is where the peer pressure and social acceptance begin to influence their decision-making abilities.

And it may not necessarily be the pressures that our youth are getting, that makes them so curious and eager to experience sexual activities, maybe we are instilling the wrong values on sex towards them. How do we actually make sex look to the youth around us? What are our examples showing them about sex?