What is Inner Beauty?

Ever met a knock-out you'd like to knock out? What about a plain jane who registered a ten on the personality scale? Or a drop dead gorgeous woman who was well rounded and compassionate? You've encountered all sorts of people. Who do you hope to meet again? Who left a positive impact on your life? Chances are their physical appearance had very little to do with the affect they had on you.

You can be a hot -to- trot man or woman and still drive your mate crazy. If you've ever been in a such a relationship you know exactly how the scenario goes. Mr. or Mrs. Right turns out to Mr. or Mrs. Wrong. How does this happen? Maybe the person is all looks and no soul. Perhaps your expectations based upon outer appearance were a bit too high. True, being blond doesn't make you stupid just as being brunette doesn't make someone smart. What happens when a person can't own up to your initial preconcieved perception? How you react depends upon two factors. How bad are they really once you've gotten to know them? And are you able to overlook their flaws or accept them even after you've put them under the microscope?

During adolescence many of us [myself included} fell hopelessly "in love" with the rock stars we saw on MTV. It is selfish to blame an individual when they can't own up to society's stereo types. How many local musicians will go on to be famous? Our time might have been better spent searching for "the easter bunny" or persuing cupid himself. Fortunately, most of us grow up and no longer pursue a man simply based upon his knowledge of music. We stop caring how well he fits into a pair of tight jeans though we never stop noticing. Many people who can't find a mate can't find one, because they need to be taking a closer look at themselves. Ever known someone who wasn't exactly the best catch themselves who kept obsessing over their mates flaws both physically and sicologically? It's easier to work on someone else than it is to admitt there may be a need to work on ones own self.

Human beings tend to get caught up on outer appearances. Is your boyfriend's car faster or fancier than average? Is your friend's house as clean as yours? Are you as skinny as the girl next door? Who attracts more attention when you go out to a club; you or your sister? Does it really matter? No. What does matter is the quality of your relationships. What counts in the long run is how we treat each other. Is your wife as glamourous as your secretary? What you should be asking yourself is does your wife feel appreciated? Is she happy? Will she be there for you when you need her the most?

On similiar note it isn't wise to choose a mate or a friend based upon their profession anymore than it would be right to choose a mate based upon their good looks or lack of good looks. Are you only attracted to lawyers, doctors, artists or cowboys? How's that working out for you?Love a person based upon who they are rather than who they appear to be and you'll be happy in love forever or at least for a very long time. When love works it does so because of who we are on the inside and what we do with the love we've been given. I'm talking about the love you've been given from God. This love exists only on the inside. This love defines who we are as human beings. Now, what are we going to do with it? Are we going to understand the circumstances that may go along with a relationship? I'm not talking about accepting abuse as a apart of the relationship. I'm leaning toward what will we do when our mates job takes a lot out of him? Will we show him how much we love him? Or how much we hate his job?

So, can you be happy in love when your mate is inadequate in some way? She's not the greatest house keeper in the world? He's not the most sentimental man ever to walk into your life? She's too heavy? He's a Nascar freak? She listens to country music 24/7? The real question is are you in love with the person or are you in love with the idea od being in love? Are you looking for a soul mate or are you lacking a soul?

Who we are the inside affects our choices in love and life. The good news is that we're not stuck with our bad habits. We can learn to love based upon feeling rather than supposed sound reasoning. Many times what we think is not sound reasoning pertaining to love really makes more sense than what or who we think makes sense for us. Listen to your most vital organ; your heart.