What to Do when You Keep Fighting with Your Partner

Many couples keep fighting and after a while, having a reconciliation. They cannot live peacefully and happily together, but they cannot also stay far apart.

Something prevents them from finding real satisfaction together, there are other factors that are influencing their behavior and interfering in their relationship, or they don't really love their partner, and this is why they fight with them, instead of being happy because they are together.

If you are in a relationship characterized by constant fights and reconciliations after a certain period of time, you have to examine what is happening to you and find out the real reason. Usually the problem is the different personality of each one. People that love their partner but keep fighting with them haven't yet found their perfect match, but a substitute that is not the ideal type for them.

However, they cannot understand what exactly is missing in the other person, or they do see it, but they think that their partner can acquire the missing characteristics with time and the necessary disposition to change. This is a very naïve supposition. You won't be able to make someone acquire the personality you wish they would have.

If someone's behavior makes you suffer, don't hope to be able to make them change it with various attempts, because in the end you'll feel frustrated, realizing that you cannot make them change, no matter how you may try to reach this aim.

Another common reason for fights and reconciliations is the lack of money, freedom, time, or whatever could be causing the couple to pass through many hard experiences and pressure. These are secondary reasons, which interfere in their relationship: if they didn't exist, things would probably work perfectly between them.

However, this is in fact an illusion. If you have many secondary problems bothering your relationship, this is a sign that there are many negative points in it, which are not visible. The difficulties you are facing will oblige you to pay attention to all the negative points you cannot see, even though you feel that if everything else didn't bother you, your relationship would be perfect.

Nothing happens by chance!

The general truth is that conflicts are a clear sign that you are insisting on having a wrong relationship. You had better face it. Forget the person that is only a substitute for your perfect match before acquiring traumas, and look for the real one!