What You Need to Know About Love and Soulmates

We are so entwined in the belief that real love can only involve suffering, and that without suffering true love can not exist. Also, we like imposing our conditions of love on others (it creates a false sense of security)...but we must realize love is not about wanting. It is about giving....

Even if you believe that real love involves suffering, then likely you have already suffered. You know what suffering is all about, you have experienced it. So now that you know about the suffering, does it need to be included in real love? Suffering does not need to be perpetual. We can learn from it and move and on. Moving on is embracing love without the entwining it with suffering.

Before we can ever have the rich full love that is often dreamed about when we think about our soul mate, we need to love ourselves first. If we don't love ourselves first our relationships will always be riddled with the same problems that occur in relationships which are occurring now. This lack of self love causes jealousy, anxiety, tempers, cheating and worst of all it causes stress and anxiety about things that have not even occurred but are completely imagined.

The interesting thing is that once you have that self love, you can have an amazing experience with just about anyone. This is because you experience every moment of it, in the moment - you are not worried and thinking about yourself and if you are good enough or if the person will break up with you. You stop worrying about if they are good enough for you, and you simply enjoy the current experience for what it is. It may be utterly romantic or it may be friendly.

That said, I do believe we have soul mates. Soul mates are people we have known from previous lives and not all of these soul mates will be sexual. Yet we may come across ones that are. I definitely feel I have soul mates in my life. We must also remember that those soul mates were with us in past lives, but we can create new soul mates right now. By funneling our energy into someone currently in our life, even if that instant spark was not there, we can create a great relationship with them (possibly for many lives to come).

In the end we are the only ones that can bring ourselves happiness. If we seek out someone to fill a void in our life, we will definitely suffer. No one can bring us long term happiness or fulfillment in life but ourselves. At times we will not feel we are not full of self-love. The partner we choose should bring it out of us though. They don't try to fill a void in our life, for to try to fill a void in someones life is cause them suffering if they end up taking separate paths. Rather your partner should strive to create an environment where you find it easy to love yourself. We also strive to do this for our partner - and you do this by loving them without condition.If you are interested in this area, fusing emotional, psychological and spiritual aspects http://elevatingthesoul.com/ provides information on attaining a life that is in harmony with our desires. The information presented allows us to be at peace with what is, live in the moment and through that create the physical (and spiritual) experience we seek.