What it Means to Be a Bitch

Everywhere around me, I see women in pain. Of course, the pain they are in...they have become accustomed to. It's extremely sad. I overhear women in my class participating in conversation that chill the marrow in my bones. They speak of staying with a cheating partner. I hear about women being 'okay' with their husbands frequenting strip clubs and owning a pornography collection. I know of women who praise other women for being strippers.

This is not female empowerment. This does not represent a solid backbone to the term known as Female. Being female is degrading. Seeing women flaunt their breasts to get attention is depressing. Why? Because instead of a female calling attention to her intelligence, wit, humor and inner warmth, she's calling attention to her breasts. That is all the men see, that is all they care about. They will get you in bed by using the magic words they know all too well, have sex with you, and leave you. They will leave you feeling like a sheet of paper that has been scribbled upon, and then thrown away...forgotten into oblivion. You are more than that. Why do you settle for less?

Do not desensitize yourself to the evils that surround you! Recognize that pornography in all forms is degradation. Recognize that it is not empowering. Know that pornography is just for men to ejaculate. That's all it is. It's for another's self pleasure and fulfillment. They don't care about women, about what's beneath their brain. Their vision and knowledge almost never leaves the first layer of our being. Why call attention to your long legs, when in the end it will only end up in hurt?

So many women become married, only to lead miserable lives? Why? I can tell you. Women feel the need to look superficially beautiful. It's understandable. Then a man falls in love with the woman's exterior, never bothering to dissect her brain, thoughts, and ideas. Never bothering to care. He sleeps with her, likes the sex, and marries her. He never loves her, but she loves him. She has children. Gains a little weight. His 'love' for her all of a sudden diminishes. He cheats on her, leaves her...and there she is, crying, depressed...with two children, a dissolved heart, and no where to go in the world.

To me, this is depressing. I feel that woman can accomplish so much in their lifetime, even if they are in situations where they are victims. I feel that if a man calls you a bitch, it's because you're standing up for something. It's because you're saying NO. It's because you're showing HIM that you, too, have power. Let him call you a bitch. The more men call us that, the more they're realizing that their little games don't work anymore. Take it as a compliment. A bitch is being a strong woman. Independent. A woman who works for herself, her children. A bitch is a woman who goes to school, even if it's just to become a medical assistant. A bitch is a woman who knows what she wants, recognizes what she will never accept, and keeps pushing against the winds that try to hold her back.

If this is what a bitch is, then I don't mind you calling me that. If I feel that women who dance to satisfy men are stupid, I can. I recognize that there are many jobs available in which you don't have to deteriorate your reputation for. You can pay your way through college being a secretary. You can make money by working at a fast food place, or even by taking care of children at a day care. There are so many ways to earn cash, but stupid women find the easy route. I don't care if they're going to college to become a lawyer. To me, being a stripper is a nasty profession. It has always been, and will always be in my eyes. How do these girls go home and sleep, knowing that strange men have raped them with their eyes? How do pornography starlets reunite with friends and family over Thanksgiving, knowing that all of them have seen her naked with her legs spread open, fondling herself? If my daughter chose this profession, I can tell you right now...I would never be proud of her.

But you know what? I know my daughter will not be like that. I know this because I am a strong woman. I speak my mind. I say NO when NO is the right thing to say, and YES when it's something that will bring me honor and justice for my family and I. I know my daughter will look up to me and want to be strong as well. She will be reminded constantly that, not only is she beautiful, but she is also intelligent, courageous and that her worth as a person will always be her most valuable asset. She will know what the true ingredients are for being a woman.

Rise, women, rise! Leave your unfaithful husband! File for divorce! Report the rape! Start a revolution of bitches! Get educated! Report assaults! Stab that intruder in the eye with your keys in the parking lot and run and scream if he approaches you at you car! Do whatever you can to change this from a man's world to a world of Woman AND men..

I admire women like Molly Ivans...a woman who spoke their truth concerning the current president. I admire Hillary Clinton for having the chance to become the first female president. I would have admired her had she been a Republican. Why? Because it shows power. That is true power, ladies. True power is knowing what you deserve, acknowledging your self worth, being aware of the opportunities that surround you and breaking the mold that men have made for you. Break free! Break away....don't be a sex symbol. Don't become a man's bed of pleasure. Don't let other women who are lost and desensitized tell you that you're crazy for standing up in what you have always believe in.. Rise up, be strong, and begin a revolution of independent bitches that deserve to be heard and will stop at nothing until they seek what they desire...which in the end, is always personal success.