What Are Men Looking for in a Woman?

Looks and Sex. That's what most women would answer, if they said what first came to their mind!!! Okay, a certain percentage of men would give the same answer. But, when it comes right down to it, if a man is looking for a relationship, then the list is far more complex. If he is looking for a one night stand, well, then, the looks really don't matter as much! So, to know what a man is looking for, you should dig deeper to know what his intentions are for the woman. For this discussion, we will be concentrating on the man who is ready for a relationship. He wants someone to share his life with. He wants sex with the woman, but he wants much more.

There has been many sayings that speak of the desire of a man to "want a lady on the streets and a whore in the sheets". Some women take offense to this. But, this is a universal theme when men express their opinions of an ideal woman. So, what does that mean to a man? A lady on the streets, let's talk about this one first.

Women are different than men. Newsflash!! Men like those differences and want to see those differences in the women they desire in relationships. That could mean of multitude of different things depending on the man. But, some common traits that men have expressed as desirable for women are good manners. Not being inappropriate when it comes to how loud they are talking or how they eat or if they are rude to the waitstaff. They want a woman who listens as well as she talks. One who is interested is his point of view and his convictions, even if they are different from his. One who knows how to make someone feel comfortable and welcome. She doesn't have to be a brilliant conversationalist, but should be able to interact effectively, showing interest. She should have her own interests and hobbies. Men are drawn to women who are optimistic and not bitter or shallow. They respond to smiles and positive words. They feel the energy level they give off and are either drug down, which is not attractive to them, or rejuvenated, which is highly attractive to them.

A woman who complains regularly or talks negatively about past relationships, is a real turn off to men, especially in the initial dating phase. Negativity breeds negativity and most men don't tolerate it well.

You need to be yourself, because phoniness does not usually go unnoticed. So, if you are not naturally a positive person, this is one aspect of your personality you might want to work on. If you see yourself as someone who complains and find that conversations are dwindling, then you might want to consider a different approach. If you tend to chew with your mouth open, well, probably time to remember the things your mother taught you. Men love women who have a childlike wonder about them and are not afraid to experience new things. Curiosity can be extremely sexy!!!

Now, that takes us off the streets and into the sheets! As a whole, the majority of men love sex. Women love sex too. Seems then, that there should never be a problem in this area. But, some men don't like sex as much as the women they are with and vice versa. Ah, ha! There is one of the problems between the sheets. Then there is the style, the duration, the intensity, the frequency, and so on. Within these lie much diversity of likes and dislikes. A man and a woman need to get on the same page in the sexual side of their relationship. It doesn't matter what the wants and needs are, as much as it matters that the wants and needs are somewhat matched between the couple. If not, conflict will arise. Men want to be free with their conversations about sex and talk with their partners in an open and honest way. They want to be able to ask for what they want, they want to be told by the woman what she wants, and they don't want to play mind games. The "other" games they definitely want to play! They want to know they are satisfying their woman and that their manhood is strong and virile.

Sex is not the only thing in a relationship that a man desires, but great sex, with the right woman, will certainly be at the top of most men's list. So, a woman would be smart to embrace her sexual side and enjoy this aspect of her life.