What Not to Say on a First Date

Yahoo featured an article on what not to say during a first date. Well common sense says that some things should not be said on a first date. Well if no one ever said these things ,then there would be no reason to write on what not to say. So that tells us that some people are not using common sense when on a first date. After seeing yahoo's selected things of what not to say, I decide to sit down and write my own list of what people should not say or talk about on a first date.
Critiquing Your Date:

When on a first date you should not be pointing out any of their physical flaws. If there are things that you do not like about your date , then just leave this as a first and only date. If you find that your date has potential then there will be plenty of time to address the problems that you see with your date. So remember if you can not say something nice , then don't say anything at all.

Examples of what not to say-

You could stand to lose a few pounds.

Your make up is to dark.

That hairstyle does not fit you.

You could stand to take a shower more often.

Well I am sure you can see the rest of the not so nice things you should not say on a first date. Don't want to see the person after this date, well that is fine but there is no reason to try and hurt the other person.

Talking about your ex:

Come on people you are on a first date. Your date does not need nor want to hear about your ex. The details of your past relationships can be saved for after you are in a more long term relationship. Leave the first date for getting to know your new date, not for using your first date as a sounding board to vent on about your ex.

Compare your date to your ex:

Wake up people. This is something that should not ever be done. I don't care if it is a first date or ten years into the relationship, never compare you date or new partner to your ex. This has disaster spelled all over it.

Talk about family problems:

The first date is not the time to talk about family problems. Your date does not want to or need to know if you and your siblings fight like cats and dogs. Who cares if Uncle Larry is the family drunk. Well you get the idea. So keep those lips shut on family problems.

Finances:

The first date is not the time to talk about finances. Money topics should be left off the table on the first date. While I know a lot of people don't want to continue with a relationship that may spell out money trouble, the first date is not the time to address these issues.

Gossip about your friends or co-workers:

On a first date you want to present the good side of you. Gossiping about friends or co-workers will only show your date that you can not be trusted with secrets. A partner wants to know that they can trust their partner to not go talking about private issues with other people. So on a first date if you gossip about your friends or co-workers then you are showing that you can not be trusted.

Just use common sense when on a first date and things should go pretty smoothly. For suggestions on what not to do during a first date, read my article, Making a Date a Successful One.