What is the Online Internet Dating Buffet Game?

Let me start out by saying I myself have tried just about every major Internet dating site that exists, well at least the more popular ones. I have tried eHarmony, Match.com, Cupid.com, and many more. I even tried the Christian dating sites, as well as the ones for seniors. And guess what? You got it, they are all the same. Or is that men are all the same?

Yes, it's no secret that most men like to play the field right up until the minute they say I do. There are even some men that continue it after their married. They are called low down, rotten cheaters. So then, why as women should we be at all surprised when they do it onnline? Well, we are still looking for Prince Charming, and still wishing and hoping like the 60's song, that some man will think we are their one and only. If wishes could only come true, or is that delusions?

What I came to find from my own experiences, as well as from women I know that have used these modern tools of torture, that on most of the sites, and with most of the men they are playing the dating, buffet game. So you're now thinking what's wrong with that? Well, if you met a man out in the so called real world, it would be very much harder, although not impossible to keep several women on the hook so to speak, at the same time. Yes, the Internet has opened up a whole new world for the man who lives in the world of plenty!

What happens with this buffet dating game is that he knows you're probably believing that he is concentrating on one woman at a time, getting to know you, and then if things work out, great, and if they don't on to the next woman. Well, that's not how it works. Although myself and many other woman I know did it this way in order to give each man a fair shake, most men don't seem to be on the same page as us. Why just nibble on one goody, when their is a whole buffet table full of appetizers just waiting to be devoured. Yes, a lot of men have found out how to have their cake and eat it too! The Internet has given them a world that in the past they could only dream about. As many women as they want, and all at the same time.

If your a smart enough woman there is ways to find out what the typical buffet table junkie is doing , at l;east on some of the sites I have been on. I remember one guy I really hit it off with, who seemed like a pretty good match. Well, we were writing back and forth quite often, when all of a sudden one day he said he couldn't correspond with me for several days because he had a close male friend coming in to town for a few days, and he wanted to concentrate on his company. All fine and good with me, I had no problem with this. The only problem is this genius with a bachelor's degree didn't realize that when he logged on to this specific dating site, it kept track of how many times in a day hw was on that site. This number was visible to everyone. Therefor, in that five days he was supposedly being a good host to his company and too busy to correspond with me, he was on that dating site many, many times. Now I know why he didn't have the time to correspond with me. Most of the sites now do have some way of knowing how many times a member has been on the site in any give day.

Likely Page BreakAre you curious to know what I did? I sent him the most polite email that anyone could have ever received. I stated that although he was wonderful I felt we were on a different page when it came to life and what we wanted. I wished him well and good luck on finding the true love he was looking for. I told him nothing about how I figured out what he was really doing for those five days. I figured if he was too stupid to figure it all out, he deserved to keep getting caught.

Now I have no problems with men who are honest and upfront and clearly state that they are corresponding and or dating several women at once. I did have a few honest men that told me that. Of course that's not what I was interested in, and I as well were honest with them. However, most of the men were not that honest, and I did catch many a man lying about how many women they were dealing with at one time. I guess some men are just addicted to visiting the buffet table one too many times.

Another reason the dating buffet goes on for some men is, they are always wondering once they have a compatible match, if there isn''t something better out there? it almost becomes like a compulsion. If this one is so great, maybe there's on that's even greater. When you're out in the world and not online, there's not that many women falling at your feet all at once. You don't get that many opportunities to so call, upgrade. Not that you will be stuck with a horror the rest of your life, it's just that maybe, just maybe you could do better. The Internet now offers upgrades in every size, shape and color.

In the end we must really question what Internet dating has really done for us. Yes, I know there's a minuscule percentage of people out there that supposedly have met their so called soul mates online, but is that really true? Maybe someone out in the real world they missed meeting because they were online, would have been even a better match? I guess the men of the world have finally come to the conclusion, why settle for a cocktail wiener, when there are so many gourmet appetizers out there, just waiting to be taken in!