What Qualities Should You Look for in a Chief Bridesmaid?

Sophie Spyrou
A good chief bridesmaid will do all she can to make sure that the bride and groom's wedding day is a happy, joyous occasion. She will co-operate with the bride's wishes and be supportive of what she comes up with. But finding the right bridesmaid is not as easy as it may seem. Finding the right bridesmaid can be as difficult as choosing the most appropriate child minder from a long list of highly qualified applicants. What should brides look for in a good bridesmaid?

Trustworthy

Brides should look at prospective bridesmaids in terms of how trustworthy they are. Can they be trusted to make bookings, pick up flowers, dresses and deal with money? Bridesmaids are usually very close friends or family members. The benefit of choosing someone well known to the bride is that they are more likely to make a wise choice if they are very well acquainted with the person they plan on asking to become their bridesmaid rather than someone they have just known for a short time.

Puts Your Interests First

The bride and groom should only be interested in asking a woman to be their bridesmaid who is going to put their needs before their own prior to the wedding, during the wedding ceremony and afterwards too. A woman who is known as selfish and very self absorbed might not be the best choice of bridesmaid.

Not Competitive with the Bride

All eyes should be focused on the bride on the wedding day as the bridesmaid stands in the background as a complement of the bridal picture of happiness. But if you choose a woman who is competitive, argues with the bride and wants a bridesmaid's dress to rival the wedding dress, then you should carefully re-consider your choice of bridesmaid.

Gets along well with your Fiancé

It goes without saying that the bridesmaid you choose to support and represent you on your wedding day should get along well with your fiancé. If she shows an obvious dislike for your fiancé, then you should look elsewhere for a bridesmaid who is more agreeable towards your fiancé.

These are just a few points to look out for when trying to decide who should be your chief bridesmaid. It is better to take the time to choose carefully and make the right decision first time rather than face the rather daunting task of telling someone they are no longer welcome in your inner circle as your chief bridesmaid on your wedding day.

Published by Sophie Spyrou

Sophie has been writing for the Yahoo! Contributor Network since 13th May 2007. She used her previous status as a Featured Contributor (Travel, then Pets) to share her personal knowledge about the UK culture...  View profile

  • Always look for trustworthiness in a bridesmaid
  • Will your interests be put first? This is very important for a wedding
  • A good bridesmaid will not try to compete with the bride, but will act as a complement to the bride
It is better to take the time to choose carefully and make the right decision first time rather than face the rather daunting task of telling someone they are no longer welcome in your inner circle as your chief bridesmaid on your wedding day

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  • Charlotte Kuchinsky10/7/2007

    I had my little sisters as junior bridesmaids and my best friend as bridesmaid. It was perfect!

  • DrDevience10/3/2007

    Nicely done.

  • Lenora Murdock10/2/2007

    This adds a lot of perspective. It is something new brides should consider.

  • Christine Bude10/2/2007

    Excellent advice for a bride.

  • Carol Bengle Gilbert10/2/2007

    Interesting perspective- I think most people just pick their best friend or sister.

  • Layla Lair10/2/2007

    Nice job :-)

  • Zac Wassink10/2/2007

    keep writing these articles and ill keep sending them em's way! great work

  • Jennifer White10/2/2007

    Great info! (Also, read all your articles today, just didn't comment on them all. Good work!)

  • Susan Slade10/2/2007

    I can't remember that far back when I had to choose one.

  • Sophie10/2/2007

    I appreciate all the comments.
    Sophie

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