What is the Relationship Between Beauty and Self Esteem

What is the relationship between beauty and how it correlates with self esteem? Have you ever seen some women who seem to not look very good, but consider themselves beautiful and act as if they are beautiful? Somehow, they have talked themselves into feeling that they are beautiful. Beauty is all about how you feel about yourself. If you feel beautiful it shows in your walk, in your talk and in your actions. How does one look in the mirror and make themselves "think" they are beautiful?

Beauty as a Mind Thing

Years ago I walked into a clothing store and began to look around at the unique outfits for sale. My self esteem is very low and even though some consider me very attractive, I feel like a 'wall flower'. I was picking out some outfits to try on when the sales person walked over to me and offered a few outfits she thought I should try on. Now some of the outfits I had chosen were very expensive and even more expensive than the ones she offered. But she thought the ones she was offering were more appealing. I told her I would never wear the outfits she chose. She was shocked and asked why. I told her I did not like drawing attention to myself and the outfits she selected would surely do that. She was even more shocked. She told me that as attractive as I was, she would think I would love being looked at. I am not one who enjoys being looked at. She then showed me a picture of the owner of the shop. At this point I was shocked. The woman who owned the shop was about 300 pounds, extremely out of shape and not very attractive. But you could tell from the picture she thought very highly of herself. The young lady told me the shop owner indeed thought very highly of herself and wore some of the very same outfits I had refused to try on. She also added that she thought I was the best model for the outfits and was very confused as to why I chose to hide my body. It's all about self esteem and "Beauty as a Mind Thing."

How To Improve Your Beauty Mindset

Surely some of us do not wish to stay in the corner and always be a wall flower. I had to work on the wall flower mindset for professional reasons. I am still quite timid about my looks and will shy away from certain outfits and events, but I am more open than I was during my earlier years. I had to become more outgoing while employed as a manager, operating my own television show and owning my own businesses. During my years as an entrepreneur, I had to be outgoing and act as if I was self confident. In order to do this, I worked on creating a more confident individual by standing in front of the mirror drawing the person I wanted to be out from under the person I saw in the mirror. Sometimes you have to put on a shield of armor that protects and hides the original.

Put Yourself First When Working On Your Beauty Mindset

Sometimes it seems quite selfish to think of yourself first. However when you are trying to improve your confidence and increase your self esteem regarding your beauty mindset, you must consider yourself first. Look at yourself in the mirror and think, "I am beautiful." It's all about making a change inside that will make you see yourself as beautiful outside. You have to begin thinking you are beautiful to actually feel beautiful. Maybe over the years someone has told you that you were not pretty or someone has made you feel less than pretty. It happens, family members can say things without thinking that make you feel less than pretty or while in school children can be cruel and make you feel less than pretty. Whatever has caused you to have low self esteem, you have to reverse it. Tell yourself you are pretty, beautiful or gorgeous; whatever it takes until you actually begin to see a beautiful person and feel that you are beautiful.