What to Say, How to Act on the First Date

You hate your ex, they are a lousy no good, cheating, financially inept piece of........whoa!!!!! Don't go there! Even if it is 100% true! You know your story. You know you. Your date just met you. Imagine being on the other side and listening to someone saying those things to you. Not a very pleasant experience. Your first date is to determine if you both want to get to the second date. The fastest way to secure zero chance of a second date is to talk about the ex on the first date.

Planning on some things to talk about before the first date is not a bad idea. It will help you relax and you will be less apt to reach for anything to say, even if it is wrong. Most people agree, that keeping in light and fun, is the safe way to go. No politics, no religion, no horror stories. But, don't over plan. Keep it natural and let the conversation flow. Show interest in your date. Keep eye contact, but don't stare. Smile, laugh and show your humorous side. It's not the time to tell all the jokes you know, but funny stories or witty charm is always desirable. People love to talk about themselves. Ask some questions of your date. What do you like to do for fun? Do you have hobbies? You don't want to make it feel like an interrogation, just that you are interested in them. Listen; don't just hear what they are saying. Then you will be able to make follow up comments and questions.

Your date will be paying attention to how you treat others. Do you treat strangers with respect? Are you rude, do you interrupt, do you use foul language? Social skills are so important in making a positive impression. Simple manners will go a long way to take you from the first date to the second and beyond.

The way you speak can be almost as important as what words you say. The volume of your voice should be pleasing to your date. Too loud and it will be embarrassing, too soft and you won't be heard. A smile on your face will affect the tone of what you are saying. It will automatically bring lightness to your words. And visually, your date will feel more welcomed if they see that you are enjoying yourself.

Just because you say a thing or two that might not have been "perfect" doesn't mean you won't get to the second date. But, to raise your odds, pay attention to the details of what you are saying. And most importantly, keep it honest and be yourself!!!