What to Do in a Sexless Marriage
Most of Us Guys Are Up for it 24/7, Married or Not! It's Possibly Something About 'spreading Your Genes'
I've given this a lot of thought, and as far as I can see it's generally the female in the partnership who 'goes off' sex. There are obviously exceptions (like the girl I know who had sex once on her wedding night and, not for the want of trying, no sex for the next two years) but I'd say that it's definitely a gender thing.
Maybe when a women has 'got her man' her hormones start telling her that there's no need to spend valuable time and energy on sex when it's there whenever and wherever she wants it. Whereas most of us guys are up for it 24/7, married or not! It's possibly something about 'spreading your genes'.
There are a number of strategies open to all the guys in this situation:-
1. Discuss it with your wife - Hmmm, this sounds like a good idea on the face of it ,but there's a possibility this will put the pressure on her and even make her a bit paranoid about the whole thing, thus making the situation even worse!
2. Rely on the old five finger shuffle! - If you can satisfy those urges by pleasuring yourself ,then maybe that's the answer (just remember to 'clear history' on your computer! :-))
3. Have an affair by joining a cheating wives club, which I did think of doing - but not very ethical and if you value your marriage, not a good idea at all.
4. Go to relationship counselling - Again, is this going to make things worse?
5. Try to make her more interested in you - Why not hit the gym, get some new clothes, a splash of aftershave, etc. I also think doing a few things, social or not, as an individual (as opposed to a couple) might reintroduce a bit of mystery to the relationship. When was the last time you did a bit of harmless flirting with a member of the opposite sex? It can do wonders for self confidence and what's wrong with a little bit of jealousy on her part.
Just my thoughts!
Do you have any answers to stop my blisters.
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4 Comments
Post a CommentActually...I take that first statement back. When I was pregnant with my second child, I had to refuse because it was painful. Other than that, I never have.
It would seem to me that a marriage where one partner is not respecting the needs of the other is not much of a marriage. I would hope that she would be willing to go to counseling or do anything at all to make things better. I've been married for 28 years and never once refused my husband sexually. Sometimes I may not be in the mood, but he always manages to get me in the mood. I know other men, though...whose wives totally reject them sexually. Not even a kiss or a hug. I would not blame a man for looking elsewhere in such a situation...
This is a very sad situation..counciling needs to be done at this point!!...Great Article..
Hmmm, this is a tough one! I suppose if the embers simply have died down, I'd try #5 first, and then #1. You need to let her know you're feeling unwanted. A good wife will be quick to rectify that (how old fashioned do I sound?). But if the spark was never really there in the first place, I have to agree with Melpol. : (