What are Some Signs of Post Wedding Blues?

The lead up to a wedding is hectic and very stressful. Some couples easily deal with this time in their lives because they know the end result (their marriage) will make it all worthwhile. The big day arrives and the couple exchange their marriage vows. It is not long after the wedding day that many couples experience post wedding blues. This can involve a feeling of sadness at unfulfilled expectations and even depression. What are some other tell-tale signs and how can newlyweds navigate through this difficult part of their lives together?

1. Loss of interest in sex

Newlyweds may be shocked to discover that they do not have much interest in sex soon after they get married. It may not fulfil their expectations, or they may just lose complete interest very early on in their marriage. This is not as uncommon as it sounds. Planning a wedding is not easy and it can leave a couple so wiped out that on their wedding night and on subsequent occasions they are not in the mood for it. After the chaos of a wedding it will take time to fall into a "normal" routine and that includes finding the time to connect with your spouse sexually. Do not neglect intimacy and closeness in the marriage. Even if you are tired, continue to kiss and hug and talk about how you feel. Sex is an important part of a marriage and should not have to suffer for long after a couple get married, if they are quick to deal with the issues in their lives.

2. Arguments

Marriage is supposed to be non-stop romance where the bride and groom kiss and live happily ever after, right? Wrong! Even a couple who got along well and hardly argued before their marriage may be shocked to find themselves arguing a lot after the wedding ceremony. This can be about petty issues such as leaving socks on the bedroom floor to more serious disputes. It is often a sign of stress and the pent up feelings from the wedding pouring out and nothing more serious. But make sure you talk through how you really feel, rather than let petty squabbles escalate. That is not a good start to a marriage.

3. Disappointment

Many newlywed couples report feeling disappointed and let down. It is not hard to work out why. A wedding has a huge build up to one special day. On that day, the couple are adored and are the centre of attention. But this feeling will quickly disappear as the presents are collected together and the thank you cards sent out. A couple can ease this feeling by spending time together and looking at all that they have achieved. All the planning, spending and time has resulted in their dream and that is the beginning of their marriage. It is easy to lose sight of this with all the new adjustments that need to be made after the wedding.

The wedding day needs to be kept in its proper place. Afterall, it is not the marriage. It represents just one day. The rest of a couple's life is what really matters. This may help a couple to overcome the post wedding blues as they settle into married life.