What is True Love?

So what does it mean when you say the words "I love you"? These words can be full of emotions and great pleasure, or they can be the cause of another person's direct suffering. Often, these words can be purely said with the intentions of only selfish desires to get what is wanted out of the relationship. This kind of love has no concern for the person who hears the words. These words when not really true can cause more harm than happiness to the person they are spoken to. Love; when the words "I love you" are spoken they should involve a slight un-attachment to your own selfishness. If you tell someone that you love them it would be best to say "I love you and I expect nothing in return." This will show that you care for the person for who they are not just for what they can give you. This prevents love from being nothing but a convenience to you and hurtful to the other person. Convenient love is truly just using the person not loving them.

Firstly, what is pure love? Is it possible to love someone purely without any selfish intentions? I say, yes, if you are strong enough. To say you have no bad intentions means "I do not even expect you to love me back". Of course the door would be open to the person to love you back and they may even feel more inclined to give you love. However, to give pure love you must really expect nothing in return. When we human beings say we love someone, we often can mean "I want your heart in return, I want you to take care of me, I want you to want me, I want you to sleep with me, I enjoy the time we spend together and I want to keep that." Love can even mean "I want you to attach yourself to me". It is best to step away from those expectations before you even say the words.

Furthermore, if you can step back from those expectations, see the person for who he or she really is and still adore them with a smile on your face. If you can find yourself thinking that they may never love you as you do them and still love them, then you are free to say you love that person purely.

If you have the ability to accept your love's rejection and still love them for the person that they really are, feel free to say the words. Do not expect your love to say I love you too because it still is not a pure love if you are expecting something from them. When you let the words I love you come down through your brain, vibrate in your vocal chords and flow out of your mouth to ring into the air, you should truly take responsibility for the meaning.

The Merriam Webster's collegiate dictionary describes love as "to hold dear; cherish." How do you hold dear to someone without making them suffer or imprisoning them? Taking this definition with technicality can mean holding them: imprisoning them into your heart or the person's soul itself. Many people mistake love and the freedom of love for the feeling of infatuation and then they become possessive. That possession tries to place the person within the heart instead of the feeling for that your self to keep yourself in check is "am I giving this person freedom?" If you have ever made that person cry, then you do not truly love them. There was a saying I once ran across online and I thought it was the wisest saying I could ever live by and that is "No lover is worth your tears and the one that is will never intentionally make you cry."

Therefore, before you ever dare whisper those three precious words that people throw around like a hot potato. Think about them. We have freedom of speech and the right to our own feelings, and of course we cannot change what our heart may think it feels. But we also lack the responsibility to keep those feelings in check with the reality of what those feelings really are.Try to speak the truth and not mask them within

the emotional needs. If you love yourself, you will not have those needs to hide behind false love for another. If you find pure love within your heart or chose to let that true love exist then your karma will be good as well because you are not going to cause another to suffer.