What is True Love? True Love Is... 4 Signs Love is Real

Authentic soul ties
Are not birthed involving lines and lies.

Authentic true love
Is void of abuse and gentle as a dove.

Authentic intimacy
Will never be found by those blinded by their "me."

Authentic integrity,
Refuses to engage in emotional, physical, or pornographic infidelity.

True love birthed with lies is not true love, it is deception.
True love filled with abuse is not true love, it is lust, power, and control.
True love with a selfish partner is not true love, it is unrequited love and codependency.
True love that experiences infidelity of any kind-emotional affairs, physical sexual affairs, pornographic addictions, or lust issues is not true love, it is fickle lust and a relationship of convenience. True love is not always convenient, it requires dedication and sacrifice.

What is True Love?
True love is faithful, pure, trustworthy, and responsible. True love will be created by two partners who make a commitment and keep that commitment. If one partner does not keep their commitment and checks out of the relationship whether he (or she) checks out weekly, monthly, or every 5 years, then it is simply not true love.

How Do I Know if Love is Real?
Lots of people delude themselves and lie to themselves that they have true love with their spouse or partner despite lies, abuse, emotional affairs, adultery, pornography addictions, lust issues, or blatant selfishness. Maybe living with that lie makes life seem more bearable and pleasant. Who wants to admit that their relationship is terrible and their spouse is self-centered?

However, it is the truth that sets a person free. The truth also can reduce your pain in the long run. If he (or she) is selfish with his time, tells lies, and is verbally abusive, and you see your relationship clearly, when adultery occurs, then you won't be so hurt or surprised because a person who is unstable in one area will eventually be unstable in other areas.

If a person can't identify what true love or real love is while in a bad relationship or a relationship lacking real love, then they are more likely to find themselves in another relationship lacking real love or true love.

A Simple Example of When Love is Real
Love is not a feeling. If you were blessed to have a good mother, then you might know what real love is. A mother feels pain after giving birth but feeds the new baby despite the pain because a good mother loves her baby. She puts the baby's needs over her own. A mother might not always feel like getting up in the middle of the night to feed the crying baby but she does because newborns needs to be fed every 4 hours. A good mother might prefer some new clothes for herself, a magazine, and a manicure but if she only has $50 and her child needs food and shoes, a good mother will buy food and shoes. Good mothers turn the TV off to help their children with homework, even though she might be tired after working or taking care of the home. Good mothers don't just jump into adultery and leave their children stranded with babysitters and leave a great father in the dust to reclaim her youth. Good mothers also don't spend the savings or retirement on a new car or new identity to fight fears of aging, they make decisions that will be solid ones in the future. Good mothers are there through the thick and thin, good and bad times-this does not mean they are enabling their children. Good mothers don't ever stop being a mother or a great example for their children, whether the child is a child or an adult. Good mothers become good grandmothers for future generations.

Can Selfish Love Turn Into True Love or Real Love? Can a Selfish Partner Turn Into a Partner Capable of Real Love?
Real love and true love will only be possible between two dedicated, responsible, marriage partners who are committed to doing the right thing for the relationship and love (a "we" attitude rather than a "me" attitude) for the rest of their lives. If one or both spouses (or partners before marriage) typically give into selfish desires and the god of their feelings or latest whim, then this is not a person capable of true love, real love, or authentic love. Getting married or playing house or having sex or having children or getting a few pets will not turn a selfish person incapable of giving true love into a person more adept at giving real love. Getting married, buying a home together, having sex, or having children with a person who is selfish only wraps a chain around the loving partner to a selfish partner.